What women want in a man
Apr 30, 2008
A very democratic man who wants his girlfriend to take part in decision making, lays out all options to make it easier for her to decide. Modern boy, isn’t he?
Hilary Bainemigisha
A very democratic man who wants his girlfriend to take part in decision making, lays out all options to make it easier for her to decide. Modern boy, isn’t he?
Going by the books of emancipation, he may be. But then, why would I be eavesdropping on the two lovebirds? Because the most obvious answer is wrong! What do women want in a man they would love to date? Democracy or decisiveness? Equal opportunity or a go-getter?
Right from our cave ancestors, women felt comfortable in the hands of determined aggressive men who knew what they wanted and went for it. Their instincts developed a soft spot for the guy who is capable of protecting and providing for them and the offspring.
Today, many things have changed but the preference for a strong willed, confident and determined male partner has not. Forget all the talk about equal say and 50-50 vote, women feel safer with a man who is assertive. That is why the fire-spitting Museveni is still the darling of most.
Most successful ventures are those where there is a clear leader whose decision making options and speed are inspiring and remarkable.
Even in families, a husband who sets off to buy meat and returns with a toy is hardly dependable. So is the head, who spends centuries deciding on whether to put on a suit or casual wear.
There are men who change decisions 10 times a day. Take football for example. I know men who love football passionately.
They are proudly Arsenal but when it starts losing games, they announce that they never supported it anyway. They now go for Man U fervently till it loses to Chelsea. Then they fall in love with Barrack and start singing his praises.
In one season, they have identified with four different teams! Those are the men who will easily abandon you in times of problems because they always want to identify with winners.
So, when a man spends hours deciding on where to go outing, what school to take the child or what name to call the daughter, don’t ask him a simple question: Honey, should I put on blue or red? He will take another hour deciding and finally say: Both.
That, fellow men, is the art of losing marks and awakening her doubts in your confidence. Be decisive but back it up with conviction.
Modernity expects us to convince the wives on the choice and practicality of the option we have taken. And when the wife’s arguments are more sounding, it is not losing face to change the option to hers. But, when the overall effect turns out badly, the man should face the consequences and desist from trading blame.
It is a delicate situation.
hbainemigisha@newvision.co.ug
A very democratic man who wants his girlfriend to take part in decision making, lays out all options to make it easier for her to decide. Modern boy, isn’t he?
Going by the books of emancipation, he may be. But then, why would I be eavesdropping on the two lovebirds? Because the most obvious answer is wrong! What do women want in a man they would love to date? Democracy or decisiveness? Equal opportunity or a go-getter?
Right from our cave ancestors, women felt comfortable in the hands of determined aggressive men who knew what they wanted and went for it. Their instincts developed a soft spot for the guy who is capable of protecting and providing for them and the offspring.
Today, many things have changed but the preference for a strong willed, confident and determined male partner has not. Forget all the talk about equal say and 50-50 vote, women feel safer with a man who is assertive. That is why the fire-spitting Museveni is still the darling of most.
Most successful ventures are those where there is a clear leader whose decision making options and speed are inspiring and remarkable.
Even in families, a husband who sets off to buy meat and returns with a toy is hardly dependable. So is the head, who spends centuries deciding on whether to put on a suit or casual wear.
There are men who change decisions 10 times a day. Take football for example. I know men who love football passionately.
They are proudly Arsenal but when it starts losing games, they announce that they never supported it anyway. They now go for Man U fervently till it loses to Chelsea. Then they fall in love with Barrack and start singing his praises.
In one season, they have identified with four different teams! Those are the men who will easily abandon you in times of problems because they always want to identify with winners.
So, when a man spends hours deciding on where to go outing, what school to take the child or what name to call the daughter, don’t ask him a simple question: Honey, should I put on blue or red? He will take another hour deciding and finally say: Both.
That, fellow men, is the art of losing marks and awakening her doubts in your confidence. Be decisive but back it up with conviction.
Modernity expects us to convince the wives on the choice and practicality of the option we have taken. And when the wife’s arguments are more sounding, it is not losing face to change the option to hers. But, when the overall effect turns out badly, the man should face the consequences and desist from trading blame.
It is a delicate situation.
hbainemigisha@newvision.co.ug