When she comes for a date with friends
Oct 24, 2008
SHE has finally agreed to go out with you. You have been trying for months and she has now accepted. So, you are meeting at Mateo’s, then you plan to take her to Steak Out and end up at The Venue, where you intend to hang until further notice. You get to Mateo’s 15 minutes earlier and sip on a d
By Rosette Nagimesi
SHE has finally agreed to go out with you. You have been trying for months and she has now accepted. So, you are meeting at Mateo’s, then you plan to take her to Steak Out and end up at The Venue, where you intend to hang until further notice. You get to Mateo’s 15 minutes earlier and sip on a drink as you rehearse charming, funny lines and conversation topics.
Twenty minutes after the appointed time, she arrives and your world explodes in colour. This is …momentous. Then you see the six loud girls she has come with and you want to commit murder.
Most men would find the situation downright irritating and unforgivable.
The weird thing is that many guys who date campus girls know that this is an infamous trait of theirs. That means they know it is going to happen sooner or later, but every time it does, they are surprised. This needs a small piece of advice: If you cannot handle the fire, get out of the kitchen. Date more reliable sections of society.
Campus girls are said to be in this habit of gang de-toothing. But others are so used to being taken out by their roommates to hang out with their boyfriends. After several charity outings, pressure mounts on an individual to ‘revenge’. Thus when an opportunity avails itself in you, she may be tempted to call those who used to take her out.
Others may want their friends’ impression of you, others may not feel safe with you and others still may want to brag to colleagues that she has landed the man with a key to NSSF coffers.
But these are not the reasons you want a girl, who is seriously into you, to bog you down with.
And, often, when a girl comes with her friends for something that was meant to be private, she is saying something. Problem is: You are not listening.
Most of my friends go through it but still do not learn. If a girl pulls this stunt and, in spite of yourself, you are still fascinated, here are a few suggestions to help keep you ahead of the game.
Ask her to alert you before she brings her friends next time. She will think you need to collect enough cash. Nope. If she lets you know, invite as many male friends too to confuse her friends so you can have her all to yourself.
Ask her not to do it again. Let her understand that you want to spend some time alone with her. If she wants a major hangout, it can be arranged but just then, you want it to be just the two of you. If she does not respect that and you still hang around, then maybe you were meant to be together after all. Try harder.
You could also be a bit more brazen: Smile at all of them and then proceed to order for just the two of you. You will immediately fall from grace in her circle but you will also have effectively set the pace. If you are lucky, they may be too embarrassed to show up next time.
If you are a drama king, just walk out. Gather your things and leave them. If she does not follow you with a sorry message, keep walking, you can do better.
What she means when she comes with her friends
I do not want to spend time alone with you. My girlfriends are more fun than you. They will keep me busy and we shall enjoy the outing together. I like your money, but I am not sure how I feel about you yet. I am just exploring. Okay, you begged and begged and now, here I am. But I am just like these people I am with, are you sure you want to see me again?
SHE has finally agreed to go out with you. You have been trying for months and she has now accepted. So, you are meeting at Mateo’s, then you plan to take her to Steak Out and end up at The Venue, where you intend to hang until further notice. You get to Mateo’s 15 minutes earlier and sip on a drink as you rehearse charming, funny lines and conversation topics.
Twenty minutes after the appointed time, she arrives and your world explodes in colour. This is …momentous. Then you see the six loud girls she has come with and you want to commit murder.
Most men would find the situation downright irritating and unforgivable.
The weird thing is that many guys who date campus girls know that this is an infamous trait of theirs. That means they know it is going to happen sooner or later, but every time it does, they are surprised. This needs a small piece of advice: If you cannot handle the fire, get out of the kitchen. Date more reliable sections of society.
Campus girls are said to be in this habit of gang de-toothing. But others are so used to being taken out by their roommates to hang out with their boyfriends. After several charity outings, pressure mounts on an individual to ‘revenge’. Thus when an opportunity avails itself in you, she may be tempted to call those who used to take her out.
Others may want their friends’ impression of you, others may not feel safe with you and others still may want to brag to colleagues that she has landed the man with a key to NSSF coffers.
But these are not the reasons you want a girl, who is seriously into you, to bog you down with.
And, often, when a girl comes with her friends for something that was meant to be private, she is saying something. Problem is: You are not listening.
Most of my friends go through it but still do not learn. If a girl pulls this stunt and, in spite of yourself, you are still fascinated, here are a few suggestions to help keep you ahead of the game.
Ask her to alert you before she brings her friends next time. She will think you need to collect enough cash. Nope. If she lets you know, invite as many male friends too to confuse her friends so you can have her all to yourself.
Ask her not to do it again. Let her understand that you want to spend some time alone with her. If she wants a major hangout, it can be arranged but just then, you want it to be just the two of you. If she does not respect that and you still hang around, then maybe you were meant to be together after all. Try harder.
You could also be a bit more brazen: Smile at all of them and then proceed to order for just the two of you. You will immediately fall from grace in her circle but you will also have effectively set the pace. If you are lucky, they may be too embarrassed to show up next time.
If you are a drama king, just walk out. Gather your things and leave them. If she does not follow you with a sorry message, keep walking, you can do better.
What she means when she comes with her friends