When love transcends religious barriers
Jul 15, 2011
<b>He took care of our two-day old baby as I sat my exam</b><br>After over 12 years together, the director of Eagles Production, Ronald Mayinja and Aisha <br>Nakyeyune have decided to formalise their marriage.
He took care of our two-day old baby as I sat my exam
After over 12 years together, the director of Eagles Production, Ronald Mayinja and Aisha
Nakyeyune have decided to formalise their marriage.
On July 22, Aisha will officially introduce Mayinja to her parents in Mugongo-Kyengera. However, press reports had earlier indicated that Aisha’s dad, Hajji Abdallah Kyambadde, had insisted that Mayinja converts to Islam before the ceremony. Nickson Turyahikayo had an intimate chat with the couple about their relationship
Is it true your dad will not accept
Ronnie till he converts to Islam?
That’s wolokoso (gossip) by newspapers. My parents knew all along that he was not Muslim and allowed me to stay with him. They know I am mature enough to make my own decisions. I am a graduate; this is not too difficult for me to handle.
But why did you fall for a guy who is not a Muslim?
Ronnie is polite, disciplined and soft spoken. Everyone at home liked him. In fact, at first I thought he was interested in my older sister and although I was much younger, I wanted him for myself.
When did you first meet him?
In 1999. He came to our home to visit his friend Abbey, who was one of the tenants in our boy’s quarters. It was during my second term holidays and he used to help me with accounts and mathematics. We became friends. Later in 2001, when I was in S.5, he expressed his love for me.
Is he your first cut?
Yes because before that, our dating was not about real love but maybe adolescence.
You had other men?
During my school days, many men approached me but they did not win my heart.
Weren’t you afraid of dating a star at that age?
I did not know he was a star because, as a student in secondary school, I was too young to go to music concerts. I used to listen to Capital FM and Sanyu FM, which did not play his music. I only realised that he was a musician when he gave my family members and I tickets for a show at Lido Beach. I was surprised when he jumped onto the stage to perform.
What challenges have you faced in dating him?
His soft spoken nature is good but sometimes it drives me crazy. He does not like to argue even when the situation needs a thorough argument. People have used that to exploit him. Another problem is his work schedule. He works at night and goes on many music tours. Actually, our weekend is on Monday and Tuesday when we can go for dinner, shopping and hang out together because he is busy on Saturday and Sunday.
Would you tell him if his friend made a pass on you?
I would first warn that friend to stop. But if he insisted, I would, so he could revise their friendship.
Has he ever annoyed you?
He annoys me sometimes but we sort it out. When I am annoyed, I just keep quiet and when he notices, he apologises immediately.
Ronnie has three kids with three other women. Aren’t you worried he could go back to them?
I am not scared because, they are ex-girlfriends. But on top of that, I understand him. Sometimes, for a man to go back to his ex depends on the way his wife treats him or the way she treats his children.
How do you do it?
I make sure his children see me as their mother. When I go shopping, I consider all of them. I have two and he has three, but they all refer to me as their mother.
What’s your advice to married women whose husbands have children outside marriage?
They should try their best to love and care for those children because the children are innocent. It is also not right to blame the women because when it happened they were in love and then things did not work out, which is normal in life. It can even happen to you who is the married person at home. You don’t know what will happen in the next ten years.
What is your most memorable romantic moment?
In 2004, I gave birth during exams and decided to skip a paper. But he insisted that I do it, so I gave birth on Wednesday and I did the first paper on Friday. He went with me and our baby and I left him seated in the car babysitting as I did my exam. I asked the invigilator to let me rush to the car at regular intervals, to breastfeed my baby. It is a moment I will never forget. He cared enough about my education to do that.
What’s the secret behind your beauty?
None. I was created with my figure and I think I must have inherited the smooth and light skin from my mum, who is a light skinned Munyankole.
Aisha bailed me out of
a tight financial situation - Mayinja
Why hadn’t you legalised
your marriage all these years?
Every year, I set goals to achieve and when I am working towards those goals, I don’t want anything to disrupt me. This year, we planned an introduction ceremony and, in spite of what you may have ran in the media, it is going to be on July 22.
Can you take us back to the
beginning of you and Aisha?
My first time to see her was in the 1990s. She was a humble, good looking girl with a nice figure, light skin, born and raised in a responsible family. She was a daughter of my friend’s landlord and I used to go to my friend’s place to watch football because I did not have a television at home.
A landlord’s daughter when you didn’t even own a TV set?
I first became her friend because, by then, she was still young. My friend told me she was in S. 3. So I remained a friend till around 2001 when she went to S5.
Wasn’t that defilement?
She was in secondary school and by then, people in A-level were a little older. She was at least above 18 years.
Was she your first cut?
No! I met her in 1999 and by then, my eldest daughter was six years old.
She is now at Uganda Martyrs’ Namugongo in S5. Aisha’s first born is in P2.
Why didn’t you marry the
mother of your first child?
We were in an unstable relationship which neither of us took seriously, even though we loved each other. We were both in secondary school. She got pregnant when I was in S3 and I did not have the means to look after her, so I let her go.
Do you meet and reminisce
about the good old days?
I meet her but we can’t return to the past. She is happily married and she also knows I have someone. Whenever I recall those days, I just remember how crazy we were.
What if she tried to seduce you?
It wouldn’t happen. She is married and has other children. Returning to the past would be betraying Aisha who has been there for me in bad and good times.
Doesn’t your first born ask
after her mother?
At first she used to ask me but now she is grown up. She no longer cries for her mother because Aisha has shown her real motherly love. She treats her as a mother would. If you saw them, you would not know that Aisha is her stepmother.
What is your most
memorable moment?
One time I was broke and my landlord was about to confiscate my property and my daughter had been sent away from school over fees. I felt too ashamed to tell Aisha about it. but she heard about it and came to see me. She gave me money to clear my rent and the next day she asked to go with me to my daughter’s school and cleared her fees. I did not expect a girl at campus, beautiful as she was, from a rich family, to stay with me under such conditions. There are few girls who can do that!
Is that why you love her?
The biggest plus is her character. She is very understanding, intelligent, hard working and patient.
Do you think your work
schedule bothers her?
In a modern world, love and money compete for attention. Those who prioritise love spend much of their time on romance. Those who prioritise money, spend their time looking for it. It depends on what one takes to be most important. I grew up knowing that life is about getting money and other things come later. Wait for my album launch Oyina okukola on July 29, six days after my introduction.
I have seen beautiful girls touching you in videos; how do you control yourself?
I deal with them when we are shooting videos but after that, they don’t have anymore business with me. Have you ever heard that Ronald Mayinja was spotted with a girl anywhere?
Has she ever annoyed you?
She has annoyed me several times and I have done the same. In any relationship, annoying each other is a formula that strengthens the bond. When you annoy your partner and she forgives you, how would you not forgive her next time she annoys you?
How would you, for instance, communicate sexual dissatisfaction?
I know Aisha satisfies me. If I failed to get satisfied, I would tell her because I know she has the potential to satisfy me.
What’s your advice to men who are not satisfied by their women?
They should stop sleeping with different women. When a man sleeps with different women, he starts comparing them.
After over 12 years together, the director of Eagles Production, Ronald Mayinja and Aisha
Nakyeyune have decided to formalise their marriage.
On July 22, Aisha will officially introduce Mayinja to her parents in Mugongo-Kyengera. However, press reports had earlier indicated that Aisha’s dad, Hajji Abdallah Kyambadde, had insisted that Mayinja converts to Islam before the ceremony. Nickson Turyahikayo had an intimate chat with the couple about their relationship
Is it true your dad will not accept
Ronnie till he converts to Islam?
That’s wolokoso (gossip) by newspapers. My parents knew all along that he was not Muslim and allowed me to stay with him. They know I am mature enough to make my own decisions. I am a graduate; this is not too difficult for me to handle.
But why did you fall for a guy who is not a Muslim?
Ronnie is polite, disciplined and soft spoken. Everyone at home liked him. In fact, at first I thought he was interested in my older sister and although I was much younger, I wanted him for myself.
When did you first meet him?
In 1999. He came to our home to visit his friend Abbey, who was one of the tenants in our boy’s quarters. It was during my second term holidays and he used to help me with accounts and mathematics. We became friends. Later in 2001, when I was in S.5, he expressed his love for me.
Is he your first cut?
Yes because before that, our dating was not about real love but maybe adolescence.
You had other men?
During my school days, many men approached me but they did not win my heart.
Weren’t you afraid of dating a star at that age?
I did not know he was a star because, as a student in secondary school, I was too young to go to music concerts. I used to listen to Capital FM and Sanyu FM, which did not play his music. I only realised that he was a musician when he gave my family members and I tickets for a show at Lido Beach. I was surprised when he jumped onto the stage to perform.
What challenges have you faced in dating him?
His soft spoken nature is good but sometimes it drives me crazy. He does not like to argue even when the situation needs a thorough argument. People have used that to exploit him. Another problem is his work schedule. He works at night and goes on many music tours. Actually, our weekend is on Monday and Tuesday when we can go for dinner, shopping and hang out together because he is busy on Saturday and Sunday.
Would you tell him if his friend made a pass on you?
I would first warn that friend to stop. But if he insisted, I would, so he could revise their friendship.
Has he ever annoyed you?
He annoys me sometimes but we sort it out. When I am annoyed, I just keep quiet and when he notices, he apologises immediately.
Ronnie has three kids with three other women. Aren’t you worried he could go back to them?
I am not scared because, they are ex-girlfriends. But on top of that, I understand him. Sometimes, for a man to go back to his ex depends on the way his wife treats him or the way she treats his children.
How do you do it?
I make sure his children see me as their mother. When I go shopping, I consider all of them. I have two and he has three, but they all refer to me as their mother.
What’s your advice to married women whose husbands have children outside marriage?
They should try their best to love and care for those children because the children are innocent. It is also not right to blame the women because when it happened they were in love and then things did not work out, which is normal in life. It can even happen to you who is the married person at home. You don’t know what will happen in the next ten years.
What is your most memorable romantic moment?
In 2004, I gave birth during exams and decided to skip a paper. But he insisted that I do it, so I gave birth on Wednesday and I did the first paper on Friday. He went with me and our baby and I left him seated in the car babysitting as I did my exam. I asked the invigilator to let me rush to the car at regular intervals, to breastfeed my baby. It is a moment I will never forget. He cared enough about my education to do that.
What’s the secret behind your beauty?
None. I was created with my figure and I think I must have inherited the smooth and light skin from my mum, who is a light skinned Munyankole.
Aisha bailed me out of
a tight financial situation - Mayinja
Why hadn’t you legalised
your marriage all these years?
Every year, I set goals to achieve and when I am working towards those goals, I don’t want anything to disrupt me. This year, we planned an introduction ceremony and, in spite of what you may have ran in the media, it is going to be on July 22.
Can you take us back to the
beginning of you and Aisha?
My first time to see her was in the 1990s. She was a humble, good looking girl with a nice figure, light skin, born and raised in a responsible family. She was a daughter of my friend’s landlord and I used to go to my friend’s place to watch football because I did not have a television at home.
A landlord’s daughter when you didn’t even own a TV set?
I first became her friend because, by then, she was still young. My friend told me she was in S. 3. So I remained a friend till around 2001 when she went to S5.
Wasn’t that defilement?
She was in secondary school and by then, people in A-level were a little older. She was at least above 18 years.
Was she your first cut?
No! I met her in 1999 and by then, my eldest daughter was six years old.
She is now at Uganda Martyrs’ Namugongo in S5. Aisha’s first born is in P2.
Why didn’t you marry the
mother of your first child?
We were in an unstable relationship which neither of us took seriously, even though we loved each other. We were both in secondary school. She got pregnant when I was in S3 and I did not have the means to look after her, so I let her go.
Do you meet and reminisce
about the good old days?
I meet her but we can’t return to the past. She is happily married and she also knows I have someone. Whenever I recall those days, I just remember how crazy we were.
What if she tried to seduce you?
It wouldn’t happen. She is married and has other children. Returning to the past would be betraying Aisha who has been there for me in bad and good times.
Doesn’t your first born ask
after her mother?
At first she used to ask me but now she is grown up. She no longer cries for her mother because Aisha has shown her real motherly love. She treats her as a mother would. If you saw them, you would not know that Aisha is her stepmother.
What is your most
memorable moment?
One time I was broke and my landlord was about to confiscate my property and my daughter had been sent away from school over fees. I felt too ashamed to tell Aisha about it. but she heard about it and came to see me. She gave me money to clear my rent and the next day she asked to go with me to my daughter’s school and cleared her fees. I did not expect a girl at campus, beautiful as she was, from a rich family, to stay with me under such conditions. There are few girls who can do that!
Is that why you love her?
The biggest plus is her character. She is very understanding, intelligent, hard working and patient.
Do you think your work
schedule bothers her?
In a modern world, love and money compete for attention. Those who prioritise love spend much of their time on romance. Those who prioritise money, spend their time looking for it. It depends on what one takes to be most important. I grew up knowing that life is about getting money and other things come later. Wait for my album launch Oyina okukola on July 29, six days after my introduction.
I have seen beautiful girls touching you in videos; how do you control yourself?
I deal with them when we are shooting videos but after that, they don’t have anymore business with me. Have you ever heard that Ronald Mayinja was spotted with a girl anywhere?
Has she ever annoyed you?
She has annoyed me several times and I have done the same. In any relationship, annoying each other is a formula that strengthens the bond. When you annoy your partner and she forgives you, how would you not forgive her next time she annoys you?
How would you, for instance, communicate sexual dissatisfaction?
I know Aisha satisfies me. If I failed to get satisfied, I would tell her because I know she has the potential to satisfy me.
What’s your advice to men who are not satisfied by their women?
They should stop sleeping with different women. When a man sleeps with different women, he starts comparing them.