Pope Francis meets 10,000 engaged couples on Valentine's Day
Feb 15, 2014
Vatican City– Ten thousand engaged couples from all over the world gathered yesterday, on the feast of St. Valentine, in St.Peter's Square to consider the vocation of marriage, with the theme “The joy of 'Yes' forever”, and to meet with Pope Francis.
Vatican City– Ten thousand engaged couples from all over the world gathered yesterday, on the feast of St. Valentine, in St.Peter's Square to consider the vocation of marriage, with the theme “The joy of 'Yes' forever”, and to meet with Pope Francis.
The event, organised by the Pontifical Council for the Family, began with a series of testimonies from couples, interspersed with readings and songs dedicated to love in its various manifestations.
Pope Francis spoke on three issues put forward by many couples: The fear of “forever”, living together, the matrimonial way of life; and the type of matrimonial celebration.
“It is important to ask ourselves if it is possible to love one another 'forever'”, affirmed the Pope.
He added: “Today many people are afraid of making definitive decisions, that affect them for all their lives, because it seems impossible … and this mentality leads many who are preparing for marriage to say, 'We will stay together for as long as our love lasts'.
But what do we mean by 'love'? A mere emotion, a psycho-physical state? Certainly, if it is just this, it cannot provide the foundation for building something solid.
But if instead love is a relationship, then it is a growing reality, and we can also say, by way of example, that it is built in the same way that we build a house.
And we build a house together, not alone! … You would not wish to build it on the shifting sands of emotions, but on the rock of true love, the love that comes from God.
The family is born of this project of love that wishes to grow, as one builds a house that becomes the locus of affection, help, hope and support.
Just as God's love is stable and lasts forever, we want the love on which a family is based to be stable and to last forever. We must not allow ourselves to be conquered by a 'throwaway culture'.
The Pope explained that 'for ever' is not simply a question of duration!
“A marriage does not succeed just because it lasts; its quality is also important. To stay together and to know how to love each other for ever is the challenge Christian married couples face!”
“In the Our Father prayer we say, 'Give us this day our daily bread'. Married couples may also learn to pray, 'Give us this day our daily love', teach us to love each other, to care for each other.
The more you entrust yourselves to the Lord, the more your love will be 'for ever', able to renew itself and to overcome every difficulty”.
In response to the second question, Francis emphasised that living together is “an art, a patient, beautiful and fascinating journey … which can be summarised in three words: please, thank you and sorry.
Pope Francis commented that marriage should be a celebration, but a Christian rather than a worldly one.
He offered as an example Jesus' first miracle at Cana, when he transformed water into wine when the latter appeared to have run out, thus saving the celebrations.
“What happened at Cana two thousand years ago, happens in reality at every wedding feast. It is the presence of the Lord, who reveals Himself and the gift of His grace, that will render your marriage full and profoundly true. … At the same time, it is good for your wedding to be sober and to emphasise that which is truly important.
Some people are more concerned with external signs, with the banquet, the dress... These are important aspects of a feast, but only if they are able to indicate the true reason for your joy: the Lord's blessing upon your love.
Ensure that, like the wine in Cana, the external signs of your wedding feast reveal the presence of the Lord and remind you, and all those presence, of the origin of and reason for your joy”.