Want to hook him? Make him beg.

By Catherine Tamale
     
David and Annie were watching football when the controversial topic came up. David actually brought it up that if he wants to have a good meal, he thinks of dating.

“Are you kidding me?” Annie interrupted him. “Who says every girl can cook? I suck at cooking; even my boyfriend John knows it. Throughout the years we have dated I have prepared two romantic meals and both were disaster. John begged me never to go to the kitchen again!”

Annie then related to David a story of her former roommate who, despite having spent her every evening cooking and cleaning up her boyfriends’ crib, got mercilessly ditched for another who couldn’t even prepare an egg.

I was in earshot of their heated argument and wondered why girls labour for their boyfriends. Well, I might sound bitchy but hey, it is not how much housework you do at his place or the TLC you dispense. To me, it’s how smart you play around with his mind that matters. Eventually, you become the centre of attention, not him.

He may be smashingly hot, romantic, irresistibly rich, plus everything that makes him the man of your dreams. But hey, you need to make him think he is lucky to have you.

For starters, make sure your level of interest is less than his. This way, you will have the upper hand. Holding back some 10% and trying hard to keep your feelings to yourself gets him hooked without you kissing his feet. Kick out that temptation of acting the nice girl who washes his boxers after that stupid match between Man-U and Barcelona.

Why do it yet he cancelled your date at your favourite restaurant?

Create a little mystery. Don’t text him trying to see if he is okay or if he had his lunch on time. You’re not his mother. He should be the one asking to at least see your hair. It’s a kiss of death acting needy for his money, being eager to hang with him or insisting you badly need a  kwanjula.

Do that and you are bound to do more housework, need I say cry work? Take it at your pace and have him declare before his Man –U mates that you’re more important than the game. He should not, and I repeat, not come before your episode of Gossip Girl.

And how dare he come before the girls’ night out? Leave your life and mind your business. When he comes around, show him just a little bit of love and get back to business - inflation is soaring! Besides, if he hasn’t committed yet, you are a free agent.

Want to look more attractive to him? Let him see you out with another dude  that will make you seem more attractive and he will want to have you forever. In fact, he will think of you as a challenge. So call up Ronnie, go out and catch up on old times.But let him not see you flirt or get physical with Ronnie.
 

Also, understand that you are beautiful in your natural state and stop trying so hard to get the guys all hot and crazy, otherwise all you’ll get is a booty call. If you are lucky to have a great body, don’t display it all at once but focus on one asset at a time.

Not that you should wear oversized clothes in the name of covering up more bits of your body, no. Just be more subtle in your presentation.

Use makeup to enhance your looks, not to give you the look of a drug addict. See, guys like wholesome. The more he sees you sexy and beautiful the more you get in his mind and fantasy of the ideal woman.
 

Plus, cultivate a reputation for being a woman who does not waste time on fools. You are too good to get hung up on a guy who doesn’t like you. Every tear you shed for a jerk takes up valuable psychic energy and sets you back.

Just open up to a new guy. But if things don’t go your way, go ahead and feel sorry for yourself for a day or two. Eat junk food; get wasted with the girls, whatever. Then pick yourself up and live your life.