He wants to teach my girl what? Absolutely out of the question!
Mar 19, 2010
SO you are a couple and would like to spend a lot of time together. Problem is your busy schedules make it almost impossible to spend ‘quality time’ with her.
BY ANNE KIRYA
SO you are a couple and would like to spend a lot of time together. Problem is your busy schedules make it almost impossible to spend ‘quality time’ with her.
However, many men agree that they would rather miss the odd football game than let another man teach their partner how to do certain things.
Things like how to dance the rumba. Dance is a fun way to exercise, and yes a good way to bond. This will be her argument to get you to join her for dance classes. But being a macho man, you say ‘no’ and claim dance is for girls.
However, what you don’t know is that rumba is quite… provocative. According to some sources, it was originally a marriage dance filled with many romantic movements. Usually to get the best out of the rumba, the partners are required to feel the music and bring out its essence. Another fact is in Uganda, it is mostly men who teach this dance.
Question is, would you not rather be the one holding your wife, dancing to Cuban music and that is your sweat that came into contact with her body as you danced?
Richard says being comfortable with her taking dance classes depends on a few things. At what time are they held and where? He would also need to know the other members of the class.
“I would not make it obvious that I mind. I do not want her to think I’m jealous,†he adds.
Lawrence’s girl wanted to learn how to swim. He did not know how to and did not want to learn either. She was so shy about being semi-nude in public that he went along for support. As she floundered around in the pool, he sat by and watched. By and by, she grew more confident. She bought a two-piece swimsuit and no longer needed him to tag along. It was only when he dropped by one day that he noticed the instructor was paying a lot more attention to his wife’s behind than to other ladies.
In a fit of rage, he demanded she either quits swimming or finds a female instructor.
Try as she might, she failed to get a female instructor and quitting was not an option. After a lot of persuasion, from his friends, both male and female, Lawrence reluctantly settled for another male instructor.
However, he took to dropping in unannounced. Luckily, she had learned to swim by now and did not require much attention. Some women, to avoid their partner’s questions, choose not to tell them. “If I know he will be upset, I don’t tell him. It’s not like I’m doing anything wrong,†Anita says. Good trick, but if he finds out then there will be an even bigger problem.
Letting your girlfriend have a private male tutor is taboo in Arthur’s books. He recalls a man offering to tutor his ex-girlfriend in cinematography. The two spent a lot of time together and soon Arthur was given the boot.
For some men, even driving classes are a threat. But Tim thinks this is a bit unrealistic. “You cannot monitor a woman like a child, you will run mad!†he says.
Jude says although he if be was uncomfortable, he would not tell his girlfriend. “If she thinks I trust her maybe she’ll live up to it,†he adds.
Many activities that are a team effort usually result into the participants bonding, but not necessarily in a sexual way. However, if you can, and if you are suspicious, do all these activities with your partner.
It can be good for your relationship. But trust is an important part of a relationship. Sometimes you just have to trust that your wife is not doing anything behind your back. Besides, you do not want to stifle your partner. Give her room to do things on her own as well. This is also good for the relationship.
HOW ARTHUR WAS DUMPED
Arthur, who lost his girlfriend to a cinematography instructor, narrates how it happened in a Facebook conversation.
Me: What happened? We have cinematography tutors in Uganda?
ARTHUR: I was shooting my video and I used to go with her. She was into these media things. So the guy started blabbering about his training offers, which she eagerly accepted.
Me: OK...
ARTHUR: Later I found out she was taking lessons and drama began. I was tipped off by another friend that the guy had always wanted her. That’s how she left me.
SO you are a couple and would like to spend a lot of time together. Problem is your busy schedules make it almost impossible to spend ‘quality time’ with her.
However, many men agree that they would rather miss the odd football game than let another man teach their partner how to do certain things.
Things like how to dance the rumba. Dance is a fun way to exercise, and yes a good way to bond. This will be her argument to get you to join her for dance classes. But being a macho man, you say ‘no’ and claim dance is for girls.
However, what you don’t know is that rumba is quite… provocative. According to some sources, it was originally a marriage dance filled with many romantic movements. Usually to get the best out of the rumba, the partners are required to feel the music and bring out its essence. Another fact is in Uganda, it is mostly men who teach this dance.
Question is, would you not rather be the one holding your wife, dancing to Cuban music and that is your sweat that came into contact with her body as you danced?
Richard says being comfortable with her taking dance classes depends on a few things. At what time are they held and where? He would also need to know the other members of the class.
“I would not make it obvious that I mind. I do not want her to think I’m jealous,†he adds.
Lawrence’s girl wanted to learn how to swim. He did not know how to and did not want to learn either. She was so shy about being semi-nude in public that he went along for support. As she floundered around in the pool, he sat by and watched. By and by, she grew more confident. She bought a two-piece swimsuit and no longer needed him to tag along. It was only when he dropped by one day that he noticed the instructor was paying a lot more attention to his wife’s behind than to other ladies.
In a fit of rage, he demanded she either quits swimming or finds a female instructor.
Try as she might, she failed to get a female instructor and quitting was not an option. After a lot of persuasion, from his friends, both male and female, Lawrence reluctantly settled for another male instructor.
However, he took to dropping in unannounced. Luckily, she had learned to swim by now and did not require much attention. Some women, to avoid their partner’s questions, choose not to tell them. “If I know he will be upset, I don’t tell him. It’s not like I’m doing anything wrong,†Anita says. Good trick, but if he finds out then there will be an even bigger problem.
Letting your girlfriend have a private male tutor is taboo in Arthur’s books. He recalls a man offering to tutor his ex-girlfriend in cinematography. The two spent a lot of time together and soon Arthur was given the boot.
For some men, even driving classes are a threat. But Tim thinks this is a bit unrealistic. “You cannot monitor a woman like a child, you will run mad!†he says.
Jude says although he if be was uncomfortable, he would not tell his girlfriend. “If she thinks I trust her maybe she’ll live up to it,†he adds.
Many activities that are a team effort usually result into the participants bonding, but not necessarily in a sexual way. However, if you can, and if you are suspicious, do all these activities with your partner.
It can be good for your relationship. But trust is an important part of a relationship. Sometimes you just have to trust that your wife is not doing anything behind your back. Besides, you do not want to stifle your partner. Give her room to do things on her own as well. This is also good for the relationship.
HOW ARTHUR WAS DUMPED
Arthur, who lost his girlfriend to a cinematography instructor, narrates how it happened in a Facebook conversation.
Me: What happened? We have cinematography tutors in Uganda?
ARTHUR: I was shooting my video and I used to go with her. She was into these media things. So the guy started blabbering about his training offers, which she eagerly accepted.
Me: OK...
ARTHUR: Later I found out she was taking lessons and drama began. I was tipped off by another friend that the guy had always wanted her. That’s how she left me.