Flirting can earn you benefit of the doubt
Jan 09, 2009
Today, we are trotting with science and that is the way to deal with 2009. The New Scientist, a magazine of great repute in matters of fact, had a story recently about how men who are rough, rugged and antisocial can still attract women.
Today, we are trotting with science and that is the way to deal with 2009. The New Scientist, a magazine of great repute in matters of fact, had a story recently about how men who are rough, rugged and antisocial can still attract women. My first reaction was: Can Kony really beat me on a woman? If you want to know the answer, read the science.
From scientific studies, experts revealed that a little bit of flirting, coupled with smiling, raising eyebrows, nodding, goes a long way towards attracting a woman. And when it comes from a guy feared as dangerous, labelled antisocial and loathed as evil, the effects of that flirting can outweighing the negative prejudices of a guy’s antisocial nature.
Flirting is making playfully romantic or sexual overtures in a harmless joking and ingratiating manner. It is common in a workplace and usually sparks off romance and intimacy.
Cautious people fear flirting, but for others who may be looking for a way into romance, it is a safe way to test waters.
Scientists say if a bad man smiles at you and cracks jokes that put wind into your laughter, you are likely to start convincing yourself that he may not be as bad after all. Or that even if he is as bad, you are capable of smelting his iron fist.
Thus says UK psychologist Andrew Clark: Antisocial men can make up a lot of ground just by being flirtatious.
Clark and colleagues at the University of Bristol, UK, became interested in flirting as a source of information for potential mates.
They filmed the faces of 28 men as they talked, erased the soundtrack, created a wireframe animation of each face, and standardised the face shape across all subjects. Women were then shown the animations, which were randomly paired with a written pro-social or anti-social statement, such as "I really enjoy helping old people", or "Old people bore me".
After viewing an assortment of videos, women were then asked to rate the men's attractiveness in the context of either a fling or a long-term relationship.
In general the women preferred men who made pro-social statements and that was not a surprise. The bomb was that for those women more interested in a fling than a long-term relationship, the men who appeared most flirtatious were rated as more attractive, even when they had been paired with an antisocial statement.
A flirtatious man shows vigour and social confidence, both of which are interpreted as good genes by women. And, if flirting reveals a man’s good genes, then it probably can’t be faked. You are either good at it, or you aren’t.
And if you are, you probably have good genes and can floor hearts whether you are as fire-spitting as Otafiire or Kasirye Gwanga or whether you are soft speaking as Butuuro or Ruhakana.
From scientific studies, experts revealed that a little bit of flirting, coupled with smiling, raising eyebrows, nodding, goes a long way towards attracting a woman. And when it comes from a guy feared as dangerous, labelled antisocial and loathed as evil, the effects of that flirting can outweighing the negative prejudices of a guy’s antisocial nature.
Flirting is making playfully romantic or sexual overtures in a harmless joking and ingratiating manner. It is common in a workplace and usually sparks off romance and intimacy.
Cautious people fear flirting, but for others who may be looking for a way into romance, it is a safe way to test waters.
Scientists say if a bad man smiles at you and cracks jokes that put wind into your laughter, you are likely to start convincing yourself that he may not be as bad after all. Or that even if he is as bad, you are capable of smelting his iron fist.
Thus says UK psychologist Andrew Clark: Antisocial men can make up a lot of ground just by being flirtatious.
Clark and colleagues at the University of Bristol, UK, became interested in flirting as a source of information for potential mates.
They filmed the faces of 28 men as they talked, erased the soundtrack, created a wireframe animation of each face, and standardised the face shape across all subjects. Women were then shown the animations, which were randomly paired with a written pro-social or anti-social statement, such as "I really enjoy helping old people", or "Old people bore me".
After viewing an assortment of videos, women were then asked to rate the men's attractiveness in the context of either a fling or a long-term relationship.
In general the women preferred men who made pro-social statements and that was not a surprise. The bomb was that for those women more interested in a fling than a long-term relationship, the men who appeared most flirtatious were rated as more attractive, even when they had been paired with an antisocial statement.
A flirtatious man shows vigour and social confidence, both of which are interpreted as good genes by women. And, if flirting reveals a man’s good genes, then it probably can’t be faked. You are either good at it, or you aren’t.
And if you are, you probably have good genes and can floor hearts whether you are as fire-spitting as Otafiire or Kasirye Gwanga or whether you are soft speaking as Butuuro or Ruhakana.