Dr Love: Hilary Bainemigisha
A man called Ronnie is bad news. He is the type who, when young, lured peopleâ€™s daughters to play hide and seek in tall grass. But Enid did not know this when she decided to cheat on her husband with him.
She was old enough to know the proverb of eating a juicy frog and Ronnieâ€™s frog smelled like pork from afar. Before their romance went the Kayunga-riots way, Ronnie had weeviled his way into a joint project that left her sh500m conned, with no project, lost romance, spoiled marriage, â€¦ as empty handed as the Busoga Kingdom.
She was not a woman to keep quiet. She threatened to drag him to Police and he threatened back with exposure. Either thought the other would chicken out. She went ahead to police and he also went ahead to broadcast their illicit romance to her husband and the press, together with photographic evidence. The story is nominated for the shameless detoothing award of the year.
And it is giving women fodder to further highlight the evils of man and sending all mankind into defensive. It is sad but it is not new.
That time when the word detoothing was born, it was the patent of women folk. Men were taken through a vicious cycle of meet woman â€“ smile to show love â€“ allow her pliers in your mouth â€“ suffer pain as she removes your tooth/teeth â€“ cry foul as she walks away without paying for your sweat â€“ fail to learn from the past â€“ meet woman again â€“ smile to show love â€“ etc etc. If you look at most female CVs, you will find an achievement of shameless detoothing. For some women it became a successful business.
And that is when unscrupulous men got enrolled into the business and now nobody is safe. Every time you look at a person with love, you have to decipher whether that face smiling back belongs to a genuine love or a Ronnie in sheep skin. And that interferes with our openness and freefall into any relationship.
Ronnie is a disgrace to mankind but who are his teachers? Women! It is a classic case of the hunter becoming the hunted. The former terrorists are now becoming the victims.
Members of UPC, who were alive in 1980 understand the meaning to changing roles. And the lesson is that before you do it for the person who trusts you, think of the same thing being done to you. If you frown after the thought, donâ€™t do it.
There are many arenas you can use to defraud people smartly; NSSF, NEC, insurance, electricity bills, UTODA, KCC, SACCOS, etc. Stay there, donâ€™t bring fraud into love. But when you bring it, donâ€™t complain when roles change and the hunter becomes the huntwa.