Men want women to appreciate them
A good man demonstrates his commitment to you by showing up. So itâ€™s more than a little irritating to hear about your fascination with the jerk who has mastered the art of illusion: Heâ€™s there, but not really.
Itâ€™s a vicious cycleâ€”the more men feel those guys get the benefits of your time and attention, the more incentive they have to become those guys.
And thatâ€™s bad for both of you since more of those guys turn your illusion into our delusion.