AGONY: I have fallen in love with my friend

AGONY    RELATIONSHIPS

I have been friends with a woman for over three years. We are very close and spend a lot of time together. We go out a lot and eat out regularly, and she seems to enjoy my company.

Recently, l have grown to love her very much, l think about her constantly, l don't want to ruin our friendship, should l tell her how l feel or continue as friends?

Anonymous

Below is the feedback from our readers:

Okoth Onis: I understand how it feels, the fear of rejection and failure then lost the friendship. It's a gamble, spill the beans and you will sort out your fears later. If she doesn't accept, it may be had to flow the way you used to but eventually it calms down if you mutually respect one another's decisions. If u succeed BINGO! 

Martin WM: Let her know before it's too late, by giving you all that time, it speaks volumes of enjoying your company and being non committal out there. I was in same boat but by the time I woke up, she was taken and she said I should have expressed myself earlier.

Pori-Pori P'Langoya: Continue as friends even after getting into a relationship. Sweetest relationships are those that have the couple being good friends.

Agwa Calton: Continue as friends. Until you have seen all her character ups and downs then you will make a very well informed decision of whether you will be able to put-up with her in sunshine and storms


Awilli Betty: Why are you stressed about it? Is she in a relationship that you know of? If not go out as usual and tell her what happened and how u feel.

Whatever happens, you should keep your friendship. I pray though that she feels the same. Good luck bro!

Biruz Rech Lakelly: Go ahead brother, I'm a woman and take my word that she already loves you and feels peace with you by enjoying your company often. On the contrary, she is waiting for u to make a move, if she wasn't interested in you, she would have introduced to you her boyfriend and or evening bringing u different friends of hers for you to fall in love with, but this only shows that she has some hope in you. And besides, it's the best thing to fall for yoUR friend because you understand each other so much.

Nasasira Barnabas Kifefe: Go on I support marriage based on friendship, in fact, it's very good to marry your friend I suspect she has feelings too but she fears to utter it out waiting for your word as a man

Baraba Doreen:  Hey nigga tell the babe, you could wait and give her chance to fall in love with someone else. Maybe she's in love with you too. I have personally felt the same for over a friend and he felt the same for me. So when he told me, I didn't resist saying a YES. Thank me later

Aloysious Apple Magivah:  This man doesn't know that falling in love with your best friend is the best. I befriended a certain girl here in Namugongo for two years. I later told her but her reply left me speechless. "You have been my friend for a long time but never told me that. Right now have a boyfriend but I can still choose to remain your friend". Hmmmm

Micheal Anecho:  Why do you fall in love? People fall out of love because they fell in love in the beginning. You're called to walk in love. Not fall in love. So continue being close friends, care for one another then strong feelings for one another set in which makes walking in love more fun. From nowhere you're proposing to each other, marrying and enjoying the fun in friendship embedded within the agape love you have for each other. It's not feeling that justify that you're in love. It is love then feelings set in.

Harriet Ayikoru:  It only becomes a problem if she is a married woman or if she is in another serious relationship otherwise it's good to marry a friend, not an enemy and please use your head to reason some things out unless you have system volongoto

Pius Nixon Omupya:  It the best experience in life. Good, you already know her closely. Give her a special invitation out and I'm sure she'll at least have a little feeling of what's about to happen then amidst that joy and happiness try to bring your feelings towards her but don't rush in body and feet. Do it nice and slow. U can text her "the way u feel for her" just across the table. N watch her read that message.

Rachel Talanta: Tell her… She might be having a mutual feeling but hoping that you make the first move. Besides, if you are intending to marry her at the end of the day, then you are on the right track. I got married to my friend. We enjoyed each Other's company a lot