Dr Love tips lovers at the Bride & Groom Expo

It is time for the annual Bride and Groom expo organised by Vision Group and, by the time you read this, the exhibition will be raging on to its ecstatic conclusion. Having started on June 23, the expo is running till tomorrow, Sunday, featuring the fashion shows, cake tasting, makeover, give-aways and entertainment.

But perhaps, the epic of it all should be yours truly, Dr. Love's session on love, love and more love. It is love that leads us into Bride and Groom, isn't it? So what happens when we fail to stay there? Ask this question to men and the answer will be: women. Ask women and they will also say: men! So, who spoils the other people's marriages? Is it men, women, children, money, TV, social media, jobs or me? From my 17 years as a counsellor, I have come to a conclusion about what kills all marriages.

And I will explain this to you at the expo today at 3:00pm in the UMA Multipurpose Hall, in Lugogo. Just to give you a clue, consider marriage as a rocket that needs to be blasted up into the heavens. First, the heavy and expensive equipment needs to conquer gravity and actually soar, tearing through it into freedom. So it needs a

fi ring power that will propel it from the comfort of its stands before impressed onlookers who include designers, manufacturers, researchers, scientists and, as usual, the press, but also sceptics, spies, enemies and hawks.

This fi ring power is usually love, ritual excitement, sense of achievement and social support. But once off the ground, the fi ring power of love needs to cede its role to other factors such as the integrity of the machine, its design, purpose and resolve.

Any of these can fail the other and cause an explosion or commands to return to base. Marriages work in a similar manner.

Even when the design, technology and purpose are suitable, it can be failed by the individuals operating it. The biggest problem here is that people enter the marriage rocket unprepared and ignorant of how the other gender operates.

We are as different as the word suggests, but yet we do not endeavour to discover how the other partner behaves or would react under certain stimulation. In the end, we judge each other by the standard of our own gender. We have men trying to predict, understand and evaluate women using a male standard and vice versa! And women too.

How can you arrive at a proper answer using this route? Today, I want to show you the differences that you need to be aware of, tame or adjust in order to keep the rocket afloat.

How do men like Mukiibi, Otunnu and your husband think? How do women like Zari, Mama Fiina and your wife contemplate phenomenon? If life remains the same after this talk, report yourself to Kayihura; you are probably the one we have been looking for.