Help I'm still in love with the bad man

Apr 14, 2012

I am aged 25 years. I have been in a relationship with this man for about six years now and I love him so much. I believed he loved me very much too until the day I caught him cheating on me at his place.

I am aged 25 years. I have been in a relationship with this man for about six years now and I love him so much. I believed he loved me very much too until the day I caught him cheating on me at his place.
 
I was badly hurt in a way I cannot explain. I was so devastated that I almost committed suicide, but God helped me stay alive. After about two months, he called me and apologised for what he had done, saying he didn’t love that other woman, but cheated on me to revenge because a friend of his had told him he saw me with another man. 
 
Much as it was not true that I was with another man, my man had never bothered to discuss the issue with me. 
 
Anyhow, I forgave him and took him back. However, after we reconciled, he began to mistreat me. I suspect he even cheated on me because I would find women’s clothes at his place. He, however, said the clothes belonged to his sister. My man also faced a lot of personal problems, which made his manners worse. 
 
He would never call me. Whenever I called him, he picked the phone, but talked like he didn’t want to, he told many lies and gave me many excuses. I decided to keep quiet. During this time, I met someone online. We talked so much, chatted and he fell in love with me. I also picked interest in him. He lives outside the country and he wants to marry me. Although I think he is a good man, I don’t feel strongly for him like I feel for my boyfriend. The new man wants me to introduce him to my parents in May and he wants to take me to live with him abroad. 
 
But the problem is that when my man called me, I told him we had to call off our relationship because I couldn’t take the torment anymore. He pleaded with me to forgive him and take him back again. Since I am weak around him, I told him to give me time to think about it. Now he is so good to me, promising to change. He says I am the only person capable of being his wife. 
 
However, I feel that if I give him another chance, he might mistreat me again, especially at a time when I do not have any other person to run to. I am torn between a good man, who wants to marry me and this other man, who I love deeply, but mistreated me so much. My instincts are telling me to go with the good man even if I do not love him that much. What do I do? Please advise me.
 
Andrea

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