I chucked him after learning what love is

Fyona Kirabo is a presenter on Bukedde TV and hosts a youth show, Muvubuka Weyogerere, from midday to 1:00pm on Saturdays. She told VICKY WANDAWA why she dumped her first love

How does the last text message you received read? It was nice meeting you. From your boyfriend? No, it is a stranger who gave me a lift last night. A lift, from a male stranger, at night, what does that make you? It was a one-off; I never accept lifts from strangers. So, what was special about this dude?

It was approaching 11:00pm and I was cold and rushing to catch a boda boda, when he stopped me and said it was too cold and offered me a lift. At first, I was hesitant, but he insisted. I took a picture of him, his car licence plate and lied that I was sending them to someone, just in case something happened to me and he had to be traced.

So, when is that cup of coffee or dinner with him? Our first ‘date’ in the car was a disaster, so there is not going to be anything of the sort. Why? Wasn’t he a gentleman? We argued a lot on the way to my house, angrily probing why I did not trust him.

I also stood my ground and demanded why he thought I should trust him. But he is texting you. I will not respond. Perhaps afraid of cheating on your boyfriend? I have no boyfriend.

Why? I just came out of a relationship. What happened? I had been with this guy for over six years, when I realised I did not love him anymore. So we broke up. What did he do? Nothing. When we met I was in Senior Two and he was in Senior Six.

He was rich, perfect and loved me, but the other year, I realised that in Senior Two, I did not know the meaning of love and now that I do, I realise I have never loved him.

I was not feeling those butterflies my friends feel with their boyfriends. I asked for a one-year break to see if I would miss him, but I did not. So, we broke off the relationship.

However, he still wants me back. What if you do not find love, won’t you swallow your pride? I am sure I will not go back to him. I did not love him. It is love I am trying to find.

Besides, he had become possessive, and claimed he was my baby-sitter; he considers me a flower he nurtured, saying he saw me when I had no curves, while those men pursuing me have just seen me now. Ever heard of the statement ‘love the one who loves you, not the one you love?’

I think that works for marriage. I have just dated one guy and I cannot jump into marriage right away. I need to test the waters. So, which man has replaced him? I am not ready to say anything about him, but it could be one of those pursuing me; I think he might be the one.