Why men are often impatient
Feb 18, 2009
I am not sad even when my name did not appear on the cabinet list. At least the post of presidential adviser on family affairs is still vacant. But I feel the way I felt when I was dismissed from the seminary.
By Hilary Bainemigisha
hbainemigisha@newvision.co.ug
I am not sad even when my name did not appear on the cabinet list. At least the post of presidential adviser on family affairs is still vacant. But I feel the way I felt when I was dismissed from the seminary.
Some vain priest took it upon himself to tell me my vocation was elsewhere. I never forgave him till he died.
And as a result, there are two unfortunate consequences: The world is still under the yolk of sin with the number of priests as many as fire brigade trucks in our fire-ridden Uganda. Two; this world will take long before getting a black pope.
But that is not even as bad as I feel when I am in church and some priest gets a good scripture for a sermon and he wastes it with nonsensical, non-coherent, irrelevant and humour-dry preaching.
Often, I have to switch them off and think about other things because paying attention would send me to sleep very fast.
But last Sunday, I met my match at Mapeera Church in Lusaze, Nabulagala Parish. Fr John Bosco Sewalunyu – I am not sure about the spelling – dragged us through a long sermon like a movie we didn’t want to end.
Like the president in a cabinet reshuffle, I dropped many points and picked one thing we must share here because it tallies with an argument I always love to make.
Fr. Bosco said the reason why God gave Adam kalifom (chloroform) during the surgery in which He created Eve from his rib was not to save Adam from pain. Humans were immune to pain then.
It was because He realised that He had made man with very little patience.
He feared that if man remained awake during the creation of Eve, he would be a problem. He would keep interrupting God to just stop there and hand over as soon as the breasts were created.
“God you are taking too long!†he would have said. “Just give her to me ‘as is’, I will find a way. I can make her useful just as she is.â€
That way, Adam would have missed out on the sweeter body parts that were yet to be created at that time — just because of the beautiful breasts.
Women, on the other hand, are very patient and persevering. In Science, we associate this with their roles of production and nurturing.
Nature gave them enough fat reserves to replenish their energies even without external input to reinforce the resilience in pregnancy, raising children, torelating impatient husbands, nursing the sick and withstanding the most oppressive environment.
Man, on the other hand, has more blood volume and hence more oxygen and muscle to churn out more power and strength for the protective and provision roles.
But he has no fat reserves to replenish his energies. Because his resilience soon wanes, nature made him impatient to accomplish his tasks before steam runs out.
In his hunting roles, there is no time for patience and taking care. In relationships, men are usually hurrying into further steps.
He wants sex within the first 15 minutes of meeting a lady, wants children before he knows how to budget, has the urge to drive fast, and will rush into decisions before analysing the context.
There are exceptions of course, like the UPDF’s patience with Kony. Even when he is trapped in a swamp they know, they cannot rush and grab him by the collar.
They wait for a cabinet reshuffle before planning the next step. When men and women meet, the two motions must interact and complement each other into a standard speed. Men bring the driving force, initiative and ambition as women work as brakes, shock absorbers and speed governors.
This delicate balance has brought the world safely this far, don’t change it. Women will expect men to initiate affairs and programmes and those who wait for too long will be dropped from the cabinet.
And women who hurry into sex, for example, will disappoint the impatient man who will probably be expecting the woman to resist for a bit of time.
And each sex should learn to appreciate their natural differences.
hbainemigisha@newvision.co.ug
I am not sad even when my name did not appear on the cabinet list. At least the post of presidential adviser on family affairs is still vacant. But I feel the way I felt when I was dismissed from the seminary.
Some vain priest took it upon himself to tell me my vocation was elsewhere. I never forgave him till he died.
And as a result, there are two unfortunate consequences: The world is still under the yolk of sin with the number of priests as many as fire brigade trucks in our fire-ridden Uganda. Two; this world will take long before getting a black pope.
But that is not even as bad as I feel when I am in church and some priest gets a good scripture for a sermon and he wastes it with nonsensical, non-coherent, irrelevant and humour-dry preaching.
Often, I have to switch them off and think about other things because paying attention would send me to sleep very fast.
But last Sunday, I met my match at Mapeera Church in Lusaze, Nabulagala Parish. Fr John Bosco Sewalunyu – I am not sure about the spelling – dragged us through a long sermon like a movie we didn’t want to end.
Like the president in a cabinet reshuffle, I dropped many points and picked one thing we must share here because it tallies with an argument I always love to make.
Fr. Bosco said the reason why God gave Adam kalifom (chloroform) during the surgery in which He created Eve from his rib was not to save Adam from pain. Humans were immune to pain then.
It was because He realised that He had made man with very little patience.
He feared that if man remained awake during the creation of Eve, he would be a problem. He would keep interrupting God to just stop there and hand over as soon as the breasts were created.
“God you are taking too long!†he would have said. “Just give her to me ‘as is’, I will find a way. I can make her useful just as she is.â€
That way, Adam would have missed out on the sweeter body parts that were yet to be created at that time — just because of the beautiful breasts.
Women, on the other hand, are very patient and persevering. In Science, we associate this with their roles of production and nurturing.
Nature gave them enough fat reserves to replenish their energies even without external input to reinforce the resilience in pregnancy, raising children, torelating impatient husbands, nursing the sick and withstanding the most oppressive environment.
Man, on the other hand, has more blood volume and hence more oxygen and muscle to churn out more power and strength for the protective and provision roles.
But he has no fat reserves to replenish his energies. Because his resilience soon wanes, nature made him impatient to accomplish his tasks before steam runs out.
In his hunting roles, there is no time for patience and taking care. In relationships, men are usually hurrying into further steps.
He wants sex within the first 15 minutes of meeting a lady, wants children before he knows how to budget, has the urge to drive fast, and will rush into decisions before analysing the context.
There are exceptions of course, like the UPDF’s patience with Kony. Even when he is trapped in a swamp they know, they cannot rush and grab him by the collar.
They wait for a cabinet reshuffle before planning the next step. When men and women meet, the two motions must interact and complement each other into a standard speed. Men bring the driving force, initiative and ambition as women work as brakes, shock absorbers and speed governors.
This delicate balance has brought the world safely this far, don’t change it. Women will expect men to initiate affairs and programmes and those who wait for too long will be dropped from the cabinet.
And women who hurry into sex, for example, will disappoint the impatient man who will probably be expecting the woman to resist for a bit of time.
And each sex should learn to appreciate their natural differences.