You can be in love with someone forever

Jan 04, 2008

AGATHA Kaffoko is a popular radio DJ in Mbarara and was the western artiste of the 2007 PAM Awards. She is married to a Mbarara tycoon Fred Kaffoko.

AGATHA Kaffoko is a popular radio DJ in Mbarara and was the western artiste of the 2007 PAM Awards. She is married to a Mbarara tycoon Fred Kaffoko. Pidson Kareire talked to her

You advise a lot on love in your songs. So how you can tell true love from kiwani?
It is very difficult. Love is like money; nobody ever gets enough. But I am not a love therapist; I am just an observer. People have told me they have learnt a thing or two from my songs, especially nombuzabuza, Kabekakye and Mwami kulikayo. By the time I sing the song, I will have observed everything and sought a solution.

Do you think love is a root cause of problems?
Yes, especially if you are in love with the wrong person. But if you are in genuine love, the joy is beyond description.

Money and love; what do you think about more?
I actually don’t think about those two issues. But let me see.... I think about the kids, home, Fred, fans and my parents and friends. It is men who think about money. Actually it is Fred who thinks about money.

Is he insecure about your money or beauty?
Come on; which money? I am still looking for it. And which beauty? Am I not aging pretty fast? Anyway, I don’t think Fred is worried. He has seen me for 15 years; nothing can scare him.

15 years in marriage: What have you learnt?
I have learnt that you can actually stay in love with your partner forever, something that most people always doubt. But marriage has no formula, what works for you may not work for me.

What advice would you give to your daughters about marriage?
They should never leave God out in whatever they are doing, whether it is issues to do with kids, the home, business, food, love, unity or in-laws. Everything can be solved with prayer. At least it has worked for me.

What has your marriage taught you about men?
If twisted well, men are very lovable. Sometimes, we are the ones who are complicated. Secondly, men are delicate; if you understand them very well, you will enjoy their company.

What about women?
Women can build mountains out of anthills, they can have moods interfering with almost everything and this can puzzle men all the time. Pregnancy hormones can also work them up. all this can cause havoc but if you marry your genuine love, all this becomes part of the story and cannot threaten your marriage.

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