I move with my wedding picture to scare off women â€" Mutebi
Jul 20, 2007
RONNIE Mutebi is a pastor at Christian Life Church in Bwaise and the programme director of Radio One and AKaboozi ku Bbiri. His wife Esther is the project director of Compassion International project. They talked to <b>Maureen Nakatudde</b> about their relationship
RONNIE Mutebi is a pastor at Christian Life Church in Bwaise and the programme director of Radio One and AKaboozi ku Bbiri. His wife Esther is the project director of Compassion International project. They talked to Maureen Nakatudde about their relationship
RONNIE MUTEBI
How did you meet Esther?
I met Esther at Christian Life Church. I was a proud young man, who wanted someone better than me. And Esther was just that. She was a prayerful young woman and that touched me.
Don’t you get women who call you even when you are married?
That has happened several times. Since I have always been liberal with my email address, ladies always send me ‘funny’ emails. I am a friendly person, but people tend to mistake my friendliness for something else.
How do you put them off?
I always walk with my wedding picture and that of my wife which keeps me strong. If I go to a new place, I tell people about my family to thwart plans of those who want to approach me.
How long have you been married?
We got married in October 2003. God has blessed us with two beautiful girls, Cynthia and Stephanie. We also have an adopted daughter, Emily Mwebaza
What cements your relationship?
Trust has kept our marriage strong. Other people’s relationships are strengthened by gifts, but my wife can always testify that I am just improving in that field. There is a time when she worked upcountry for one-and-half years, but there was no suspicion between us. Our trust in God has also kept our relationship strong. Whatever I cannot do in her presence, I cannot do in her absence.
They say that couples lose interest in each other after some time. Is this true?
Whose theory is that? The more you stay together, the more you become intimate. If we are still together, then it means she still loves me. Our love keeps growing every other day.
And if you found her chatting with another man?(Esther chuckles) I have no problem with that because I trust her. Before we got married, I did not want to go for a blood test, but I told her I would do it for her because I trusted her.
Was it love at first sight?
(Both smile). Yes, it was. The first time I saw Esther, she had come for an overnight. Later, she joined the church band, but I spent two years watching her. The first time I proposed to her, she refused, but I did not give up. I continued developing my friendship with her.
What is her love language?
My wife loves presents, especially flowers. However, she will be mad if you showed that you do not care about the children.
Were both of you virgins when you married?
(Laughs) Yes, we were.
Then how was your first sexual encounter?
Sex is biblical. God created sex for intimacy in marriage. It is natural and one does not have to learn anything before going for it. Who teaches animals to have sex? That is a myth.
ESTHER MUTEBI
Since Ronnie is popular, aren’t you afraid that someone else will snatch him from you?
Like he has said, we trust each other and God has always come first in our marriage.
What attracted you to him?
His character and love for God. He was always smart and I was like oh, even men can be so smart. Silently, I wanted him to be my friend. His neat handwriting and accent also attracted me.
What is the number one thing you have done to stay with your husband?
Prayer. It is vital since two people with different backgrounds become one in marriage. I always pray to God to accept Ronnie the way he is. Whatever he does that I do not understand, I always commit it to God and eventually, things work out.
What philosophy do you use in your marriage?
Do for your husband what you would like him to do for you. Some women tend to be on the receiving side, which is not healthy for marriage.
What do you hate most about your husband?
(Laughs) He likes loud music, even when it is the loudest volume, it is okay for him. Perhaps it is because of the kind of environment where he works.
How have you coped?
I am still adjusting to that.
What is your husband love language?
My husband likes being hugged, especially when he is from work. He also enjoys kissing. However, unlike hugging, we kiss in privacy.
RONNIE MUTEBI
How did you meet Esther?
I met Esther at Christian Life Church. I was a proud young man, who wanted someone better than me. And Esther was just that. She was a prayerful young woman and that touched me.
Don’t you get women who call you even when you are married?
That has happened several times. Since I have always been liberal with my email address, ladies always send me ‘funny’ emails. I am a friendly person, but people tend to mistake my friendliness for something else.
How do you put them off?
I always walk with my wedding picture and that of my wife which keeps me strong. If I go to a new place, I tell people about my family to thwart plans of those who want to approach me.
How long have you been married?
We got married in October 2003. God has blessed us with two beautiful girls, Cynthia and Stephanie. We also have an adopted daughter, Emily Mwebaza
What cements your relationship?
Trust has kept our marriage strong. Other people’s relationships are strengthened by gifts, but my wife can always testify that I am just improving in that field. There is a time when she worked upcountry for one-and-half years, but there was no suspicion between us. Our trust in God has also kept our relationship strong. Whatever I cannot do in her presence, I cannot do in her absence.
They say that couples lose interest in each other after some time. Is this true?
Whose theory is that? The more you stay together, the more you become intimate. If we are still together, then it means she still loves me. Our love keeps growing every other day.
And if you found her chatting with another man?(Esther chuckles) I have no problem with that because I trust her. Before we got married, I did not want to go for a blood test, but I told her I would do it for her because I trusted her.
Was it love at first sight?
(Both smile). Yes, it was. The first time I saw Esther, she had come for an overnight. Later, she joined the church band, but I spent two years watching her. The first time I proposed to her, she refused, but I did not give up. I continued developing my friendship with her.
What is her love language?
My wife loves presents, especially flowers. However, she will be mad if you showed that you do not care about the children.
Were both of you virgins when you married?
(Laughs) Yes, we were.
Then how was your first sexual encounter?
Sex is biblical. God created sex for intimacy in marriage. It is natural and one does not have to learn anything before going for it. Who teaches animals to have sex? That is a myth.
ESTHER MUTEBI
Since Ronnie is popular, aren’t you afraid that someone else will snatch him from you?
Like he has said, we trust each other and God has always come first in our marriage.
What attracted you to him?
His character and love for God. He was always smart and I was like oh, even men can be so smart. Silently, I wanted him to be my friend. His neat handwriting and accent also attracted me.
What is the number one thing you have done to stay with your husband?
Prayer. It is vital since two people with different backgrounds become one in marriage. I always pray to God to accept Ronnie the way he is. Whatever he does that I do not understand, I always commit it to God and eventually, things work out.
What philosophy do you use in your marriage?
Do for your husband what you would like him to do for you. Some women tend to be on the receiving side, which is not healthy for marriage.
What do you hate most about your husband?
(Laughs) He likes loud music, even when it is the loudest volume, it is okay for him. Perhaps it is because of the kind of environment where he works.
How have you coped?
I am still adjusting to that.
What is your husband love language?
My husband likes being hugged, especially when he is from work. He also enjoys kissing. However, unlike hugging, we kiss in privacy.