Mystery Date: Irene and John
Apr 28, 2006
EACH week one lucky single person gets a chance to choose a date. This week, 21-year-old Irene was in the driving seat. Irene was connected to John Bosco.
EACH week one lucky single person gets a chance to choose a date. This week, 21-year-old Irene was in the driving seat. Irene was connected to John Bosco.
JOHN BOSCO
Surname: Walusimbi.
Age: 24.
Occupation: Medical student at Makerere University.
Star Sign: Libra.
Residence/Address: Nsibirwa Hall.
Interests: Chatting and watching football.
Favourite Film: Face Off.
Music: Gospel and Slows.
Ideal date: Tall and light-skinned.
What makes you laugh? When someone does something right by mistake.
Your best quality: I always care about people and motivate them
Vices: I get annoyed quickly.
I arrived late because of the traffic jam, but I was not nervous. Irene forgave me and welcomed me warmly. She told me that I was smart and I returned the compliment because she was too. Soon the conversation was rolling easily. I was so free that she even commented that we were talking as if we had ever met. She told me she was Kenyan and that became my bonus; it was the first time for me to interact with a non-Ugandan for more than one hour. She convinced me to take some wine and I tried, it was not as sweet as I expected. But I took it in order to make her feel comfortable. She was easy to talk to and confident. Maybe when the cameraman came that was when she became nervous.
After dinner we moved around the swimming pool area and I loved the way she was free with me. Irene is charming, not boring, open and straight forward. She really knows how to care about herself.
So, do I hear wedding bells ringing?
She can make a good wife, but I need to take my time studying and knowing her more. We were together for only four hours and I probably studied just about 0.3% of her. I need much more time. But so far so good, except that she drinks beer.
What is wrong with that?
Everything! I grew up in a restricting family and never took beer. I still don’t and never will. But she was so comfortable with it. After the wine and dinner, she ordered for a beer. I felt uncomfortable and feared she would get drunk. I asked her how many bottles she can take in one sitting and she said her maximum was one bottle. But she ordered for another one. I tried to discourage her by showing her the alcoholic content and I am sure she will think about it. I was very scared.
Did you fear she could rape you?
No, of course not. But I know drinking makes people lose their conscience. They can do shameful things. I feared she would lose her posture and shame me.
Did she get drunk?
Luckily no! But if she had ordered for a third bottle, I would have reminded her of her one bottle maximum and politely requested her not to take it. Maybe she also realised my discomfort because when she was still half way the second one, she suggested that we leave, but I did not want to be a stumbling block. So I suggested that she finish her drink first, which she did.
Did you ask her about her love life?
No, though I really wanted to know. Neither did I tell her about mine. I did not think it was good to discuss love on our first meeting. But I told her Shakespeare’s story about the merchant, money lender and rich man to infer that to fall in love requires burden sharing, and forgiveness. I gave her homework to interpret it. If she fails, I will explain it later.
IRENE
Surname: Wanja.
Occupation: Tourism student at Makerere.
Star Sign: Pisces.
Residence/ Address: Douglas Villa Hostel, Kikoni.
Interests: Socialising, swimming and watching movies.
Favourite Film: Avec Ventura II.
Music: Blues, especially by Joe.
Ideal date: Interesting with a good personality.
What makes you laugh? Comedies.
Your best quality: My smile.
Vices: I talk a lot, especially when it is time for serious business.
I arrived on time, but Bosco came late – very late — towards 8:15pm. I actually thought he had freaked out. Then I saw two men approaching my table and could not make out who was who. He sat and apologised. Since I did not want to spoil the evening, I forgave him and even deceived him that I had also just arrived. But he greeted me as if he already knew me.
Bosco is a nice guy, easy to talk to and generally intelligent. He explained to me some of the dishes we were served. He was smart, presentable and has a good personality.
We talked generally about everything except love. He chose his words carefully and I thought he was totally truthful. I did not see any contradiction in his stories.
Bosco told me he doesn’t drink, but when I asked him to try for my sake, he drank some wine. He is courteous. He sent me an SMS thanking me for the date.
Does that mean the road to love is open?
Not really! Bosco is not my type. He is so reserved, doesn’t club or hang out. He doesn’t know places around campus even when he is in his third year. I am foreign, but I know much more about this place than he does. He doesn’t drink or dance! I love dancing and clubbing. He told me he has never gone out dancing since joining campus – that is three years! But he is a stable person. I would not mind having him as a friend.
But what if he asked you to be his girl?
It is difficult to say no, I wouldn’t; that would be too sharp. I don’t like hurting people’s feelings. But I would get a way of explaining myself out of it. Like saying our friendship is too good to be risked on the demands of love. I would show him how different our lifestyles are and conclude that it would not work out.
So, was it time wasted?
Oh no! I really enjoyed myself. It was a nice experience meeting someone new and sharing life experiences from different lifestyles. Bosco is now my good friend. I haven’t called him to say hi yet, but I certainly will.
How would you advise girls going on a blind date?
They should be calm and expect anything, that way they cannot be disappointed. Be yourself – don’t pretend because you will get a wrong person.
Join the Mystery Date by sending your name, photo and contact to
intimate@newvision.co.ug or The Intimate Editor, The New Vision, P.O. Box 9815 Kampala. Or call DJ Ronnie on the Late Date, 10pm-1am on Capital FM.
JOHN BOSCO
Surname: Walusimbi.
Age: 24.
Occupation: Medical student at Makerere University.
Star Sign: Libra.
Residence/Address: Nsibirwa Hall.
Interests: Chatting and watching football.
Favourite Film: Face Off.
Music: Gospel and Slows.
Ideal date: Tall and light-skinned.
What makes you laugh? When someone does something right by mistake.
Your best quality: I always care about people and motivate them
Vices: I get annoyed quickly.
I arrived late because of the traffic jam, but I was not nervous. Irene forgave me and welcomed me warmly. She told me that I was smart and I returned the compliment because she was too. Soon the conversation was rolling easily. I was so free that she even commented that we were talking as if we had ever met. She told me she was Kenyan and that became my bonus; it was the first time for me to interact with a non-Ugandan for more than one hour. She convinced me to take some wine and I tried, it was not as sweet as I expected. But I took it in order to make her feel comfortable. She was easy to talk to and confident. Maybe when the cameraman came that was when she became nervous.
After dinner we moved around the swimming pool area and I loved the way she was free with me. Irene is charming, not boring, open and straight forward. She really knows how to care about herself.
So, do I hear wedding bells ringing?
She can make a good wife, but I need to take my time studying and knowing her more. We were together for only four hours and I probably studied just about 0.3% of her. I need much more time. But so far so good, except that she drinks beer.
What is wrong with that?
Everything! I grew up in a restricting family and never took beer. I still don’t and never will. But she was so comfortable with it. After the wine and dinner, she ordered for a beer. I felt uncomfortable and feared she would get drunk. I asked her how many bottles she can take in one sitting and she said her maximum was one bottle. But she ordered for another one. I tried to discourage her by showing her the alcoholic content and I am sure she will think about it. I was very scared.
Did you fear she could rape you?
No, of course not. But I know drinking makes people lose their conscience. They can do shameful things. I feared she would lose her posture and shame me.
Did she get drunk?
Luckily no! But if she had ordered for a third bottle, I would have reminded her of her one bottle maximum and politely requested her not to take it. Maybe she also realised my discomfort because when she was still half way the second one, she suggested that we leave, but I did not want to be a stumbling block. So I suggested that she finish her drink first, which she did.
Did you ask her about her love life?
No, though I really wanted to know. Neither did I tell her about mine. I did not think it was good to discuss love on our first meeting. But I told her Shakespeare’s story about the merchant, money lender and rich man to infer that to fall in love requires burden sharing, and forgiveness. I gave her homework to interpret it. If she fails, I will explain it later.
IRENE
Surname: Wanja.
Occupation: Tourism student at Makerere.
Star Sign: Pisces.
Residence/ Address: Douglas Villa Hostel, Kikoni.
Interests: Socialising, swimming and watching movies.
Favourite Film: Avec Ventura II.
Music: Blues, especially by Joe.
Ideal date: Interesting with a good personality.
What makes you laugh? Comedies.
Your best quality: My smile.
Vices: I talk a lot, especially when it is time for serious business.
I arrived on time, but Bosco came late – very late — towards 8:15pm. I actually thought he had freaked out. Then I saw two men approaching my table and could not make out who was who. He sat and apologised. Since I did not want to spoil the evening, I forgave him and even deceived him that I had also just arrived. But he greeted me as if he already knew me.
Bosco is a nice guy, easy to talk to and generally intelligent. He explained to me some of the dishes we were served. He was smart, presentable and has a good personality.
We talked generally about everything except love. He chose his words carefully and I thought he was totally truthful. I did not see any contradiction in his stories.
Bosco told me he doesn’t drink, but when I asked him to try for my sake, he drank some wine. He is courteous. He sent me an SMS thanking me for the date.
Does that mean the road to love is open?
Not really! Bosco is not my type. He is so reserved, doesn’t club or hang out. He doesn’t know places around campus even when he is in his third year. I am foreign, but I know much more about this place than he does. He doesn’t drink or dance! I love dancing and clubbing. He told me he has never gone out dancing since joining campus – that is three years! But he is a stable person. I would not mind having him as a friend.
But what if he asked you to be his girl?
It is difficult to say no, I wouldn’t; that would be too sharp. I don’t like hurting people’s feelings. But I would get a way of explaining myself out of it. Like saying our friendship is too good to be risked on the demands of love. I would show him how different our lifestyles are and conclude that it would not work out.
So, was it time wasted?
Oh no! I really enjoyed myself. It was a nice experience meeting someone new and sharing life experiences from different lifestyles. Bosco is now my good friend. I haven’t called him to say hi yet, but I certainly will.
How would you advise girls going on a blind date?
They should be calm and expect anything, that way they cannot be disappointed. Be yourself – don’t pretend because you will get a wrong person.
Join the Mystery Date by sending your name, photo and contact to
intimate@newvision.co.ug or The Intimate Editor, The New Vision, P.O. Box 9815 Kampala. Or call DJ Ronnie on the Late Date, 10pm-1am on Capital FM.