I will soon reveal the love of my life

Dec 15, 2006

<b>Gaetano Kaggwa</b> is a former Big Brother housemate who won the heart of housemate Abbigail Plaatjes a.k.a Abby while in the Big Brother house. He is a presenter on Capital FM’s Big Breakfast show. He talked to <b>Pidson Kareire</b> about relationships. Below <br>are excerpts...

Gaetano Kaggwa is a former Big Brother housemate who won the heart of housemate Abbigail Plaatjes a.k.a Abby while in the Big Brother house. He is a presenter on Capital FM’s Big Breakfast show. He talked to Pidson Kareire about relationships. Below
are excerpts...

Question: What is the latest news about your Big Brother girlfriend?

Laughs. No news at all. Everybody knows that she and I parted. She is close because she is in a neighbouring country –Tanzania. She is happily married and has a baby girl. The last time I heard from her, she was doing well.

Is the baby girl your child?
Nah! She is not mine; the time I was with her I kept missing targets. I am an unfortunate fellow….haaa!

Q- You once told the press that Abby was a quality woman. What could have gone wrong between you two?

She is still a quality woman; leaving me does not make her lose her good qualities. Circumstances led us apart; her work schedule as well as mine could not harmonise. The long distance made it very difficult to continue our relationship. Rather than continue a relationship which had visible problems, we decided to part before creating more difficulties for ourselves. Although we parted, nobody between us was hurt; we remained friends up to today. In my heart, I know I lost a woman of substance; the man who married Abby is lucky. He should therefore treat her well because she is a wonderful woman.

Q- What did you learn about her?

In a relationship, you learn bad and good things. I learnt to be more understanding and patient. Despite having different views, she should be listened to. Abby was a carefree and spirited girl. She opened my eyes to view cultures and ideas. She loved laughing all the time which she told me was a health tool to decongest her mind. She always made me feel at ease and was comfortable with everyone around. I learnt all the above from her.

Q- What was the good and bad side of Abby?

Almost 90 per cent of her was good. The fact that she was a carefree girl makes her good. She had a very beautiful smile and she was a good listener, but once she listened to you, she would give her view point and take a strong stand. She had one mannerism I didn’t like; she used to belch so much, it always made me uncomfortable.

Q- Is there anything you hate about women?

Women are totally different creatures from men. They are one of the most complex living beings on earth. I don’t hate them because without women the world would be so boring. Some of the things I dislike vary; for instance, they tend to choose wrong time to talk about serious matters. For example, if you are preparing for a journey; she will want to begin on business plans. You want to watch football; she is advising you to go and meet her cousin. They also spend too much on beauty products, but I think that is okay because it is advantageous to men too. The worst thing about women is that they are less forgiving to other women than men.

Q- Anyone you are missing?

I miss my mother every single day. She died in 2000 but I know she is in Heaven. I would give up anything to have her back.

Q- Do you have a special person you are seeing?

Yes, but she is a private person; she does not want to be in the limelight. Besides, I have not made our relationship public, but soon I will.

Q- Is she the one who gave you that ring?

No, I have had this ring for a while now. It is a sign that I am seeing someone, but I am not engaged; I am just involved with someone.

Q- Who is your ideal wife?

Somebody independent. She should not be fully dependent on me and I must not be fully dependent on her. She has to be able to make me laugh and argue with me instead of being quiet. She has to be informed. She has to respect her friends and mine too. Above all, she must be a ballistic lover!

Q- How many girls have you dated in your life?

Eeeeh! Since I was born? Not many but I don’t remember the exact number. I have been in love three times, but you know what it is: you go out with girls, have a good time until you get the right one.

Q- How long does it take you to chat up a girl?

It depends on the type of girl you meet; otherwise it may take a couple of minutes, hours or even years. However, one thing that women like is humour; women like laughing very much. If you can make a woman laugh, you have conquered her. If you must keep a woman smiling, trust me; you will be her friend.

Q- Do you ever use money in dating?

Money should not be an issue but unfortunately it is. A woman obviously wants her man to be able to take care of himself and once in a while you have to spend on her and appreciate her love. However,, emotions are what matter in any serious relationship.

Q- Have you ever fallen victim of a money-aided affair?

I will never buy love and I don’t think anything can buy it. If the chemistry is not there, nothing can force it. You need to charm her/him to be loved.

Q- What turns you off a date?

Bad hygiene, table manners and arrogance are a turn-off to me. Others include anti-social behaviours and lack of respect for people around us. I like women who are humble, but sometimes dating bad girls can be fun.

Q- What female dressing style disturbs your mind?

I think beauty should be appreciated but in the right order. A woman who dresses very provocatively scandalises men since most men are weak. Though it is good for them, they should be considerate. Otherwise, I like reasonable mini skirts, but also a woman dressed in a nice corporate suit has a sex appeal to me and many others.

Q- What is your greatest weakness?

I don’t like seeing a woman crying.

Q- What about a crying man?

Men are hardened; they adapt easily to situations than women.

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