Help, he has called off our wedding

Sep 07, 2012

I met Albert in my final year at campus, while he was in his second year. I am 27 years old and he is older than me by five years. Our relationship blossomed for three years and last year we had our introduction. I found out I was HIV-positive before we had set a wedding date.

I met Albert in my final year at campus, while he was in his second year. I am 27 years old and he is older than me by five years. Our relationship blossomed for three years and last year we had our introduction. I found out I was HIV-positive before we had set a wedding date.

We were advised by the counsellor to go ahead with our wedding plans because there are ways we could prevent Albert from getting infected. However, there is a possibility that he could have been infected with HIV since we started getting intimate after the introduction. 

Albert turned a deaf ear, saying he could not live with me when he is negative. Our pastor and my parents have talked to him to reconsider his stand, but he is adamant that although he loves me, he would rather remain single than marry a woman who is HIV-positive.

I don’t know what to tell my friends and relatives because they are waiting for our wedding. What makes matters more confusing is that the man who infected me with HIV wants to marry me, but I told him I was already involved with another man. However, one morning he called me asking to talk to me at my place.

He came over, overpowered me and raped me. After that incident, he started claiming that I had aborted his child, but he still wanted to have a child with me.  

I explained to Albert how I got infected, but he castigates me for not telling him about it. I tested three times before the introduction and the results were negative. I am afraid of getting involved in another relationship yet there are other men who wish to marry me. What should I do? 
Hasifa

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