My sister acts strangely towards my boyfriend

I am dating a guy,whom I love very much. When he came into my life, I introduced him to my family, especially my sister because we are very close. I have even been telling her everything about our relationship and this seemed okay.

 

However, these days, she acts strangely, when I tell her about my boyfriend. Sometimes we hang out together, but my boyfriend seems to give her  more attention than usual. When she is uncomfortable about something, he quickly adjusts to suit her and I am not okay with this.

 

I love my boyfriend and if I tell him this, he may think I am just being jealous. I love my sister and I do not want her to think I am doing something to hurt her. I am confused. 

 

Dear Remmy,

Relationships have their own ups and downs. You seem to be feeling insecure in your relationship. Could this be responsible for the way you feel about your boyfriend’s behaviour? It is okay to feel insecure because naturally, if you love someone, you would want to keep them to yourself, even if this is not possible in reality. 

 

You need to address your insecurities and one of your biggest needs now is to get assurance from your partner that he loves you too. You need to realise that you cannot force this out of him, but you can work on strengthening your relationship. Let him know how much you love him.

 

If you feel your sister is coming between the two of you, it may be better to keep her aside. How long have the two of you dated? Probably, you may need lots of time for the two of you to lay the basic foundation for your relationship. Much as you love your sister, it is not good to involve her in your relationship. It is okay to share with her about your life, but it may not be good to hang out with her frequently, especially in the company of your boyfriend. 

 

It is also important that share with your boyfriend on how you feel about  your sister. Being open is key for a happy relationship because it leads to trust. 

 

The ups and downs will always be there in a relationship, but building on the good overshadows all other things.