My boyfriend is demanding for sex
Jul 03, 2009
I have had a guy for <br>two years. We agreed not to have sex until we got married but of recent, he started demanding for sex. i feel betrayed and I no longer want to live with him. but if i go away, wont he bring in another girl?<br>Perplexed kerra 22
I have had a guy for
two years. We agreed not to have sex until we got married but of recent, he started demanding for sex. i feel betrayed and I no longer want to live with him. but if i go away, wont he bring in another girl?
Perplexed kerra 22
I applaud you for abstaining all this time, it is not an easy thing to do. It is important that you know what you want in a relationship and stick to it. This is where you earn respect. If your boyfriend loves you, he ought to respect your desires. Sex without intimacy creates gaps in a relationship, making it unstable.
You indicated that you are living together. Your boyfriend betrayed your trust but it is not easy to live together and abstain, because sexual feelings are strong and it takes a strong heart to resist. It might be safer to live separately until you get married.
You seem to have fears that if you move out, someone else will move in. Are you insecure because you fear that you may not be good enough for him? This reaction could make you desperate and lead you into compromising your values and giving in against your will. You need to cultivate a sense of trust between the two of you so that even when you are not living together, you have the ability to retain his love for you. You should not think that if you are physically there, he cannot have someone else.
Love is from the heart, and we can’t protect it with physical boundaries or even force it to work in our favour. It’s okay to let your boyfriend know that you feel betrayed. It might look like a risky step to take but if he is not ready to respect your values, then it maybe better that you leave and move on than to let your heart be broken.
two years. We agreed not to have sex until we got married but of recent, he started demanding for sex. i feel betrayed and I no longer want to live with him. but if i go away, wont he bring in another girl?
Perplexed kerra 22
I applaud you for abstaining all this time, it is not an easy thing to do. It is important that you know what you want in a relationship and stick to it. This is where you earn respect. If your boyfriend loves you, he ought to respect your desires. Sex without intimacy creates gaps in a relationship, making it unstable.
You indicated that you are living together. Your boyfriend betrayed your trust but it is not easy to live together and abstain, because sexual feelings are strong and it takes a strong heart to resist. It might be safer to live separately until you get married.
You seem to have fears that if you move out, someone else will move in. Are you insecure because you fear that you may not be good enough for him? This reaction could make you desperate and lead you into compromising your values and giving in against your will. You need to cultivate a sense of trust between the two of you so that even when you are not living together, you have the ability to retain his love for you. You should not think that if you are physically there, he cannot have someone else.
Love is from the heart, and we can’t protect it with physical boundaries or even force it to work in our favour. It’s okay to let your boyfriend know that you feel betrayed. It might look like a risky step to take but if he is not ready to respect your values, then it maybe better that you leave and move on than to let your heart be broken.