Dear Aunt Liz
Oct 16, 2009
<b>I want to reveal my love</b><br>I fell in love with a guy but I don’t have the courage to tell him how I feel. He treats me like a good friend and he likes me so much. I don’t know what to do because he is ever on my mind distracting me even in cl
I want to reveal my love
I fell in love with a guy but I don’t have the courage to tell him how I feel. He treats me like a good friend and he likes me so much. I don’t know what to do because he is ever on my mind distracting me even in class. I feel like telling him but I’m afraid. Please advise.
Cindy
Dear Cindy,
Love sometimes can be a mystery. Sometimes you need to be sure it is love that you feel and not merely romantic excitement.
How long have you known this guy? What is it about him that makes you feel strongly? You need to be sure about this because it gives a good foundation for a relationship.
In most cases, it is looked at as culturally unacceptable for a woman to suggest an affair to a man. However, if you feel he is genuinely in love with you, it is okay to tell him how you feel. Sometimes it may not be easy for the man to declare his intentions when he not sure of the response he will get. It is better you let him know than living in fantasy.
Is she trying to come back?
I lost my girlfriend. After many efforts to get her back, she confessed to me that she did not love me and has never loved me. She got back with her former boyfriend. But recently, she asked for financial assistance from me, which I provided. She now checks on me regularly. Is she trying to come back?
Jimmy
Dear Jimmy,
Everything around you seems to happen too fast before you even realise what you have got yourself into. How long had you been together before she decided to leave?
There should be some issues causing her to stick by you even when she has left. Could it be the money you give? If it is about financial assistance then it is likely that you are being used. You said you love her but it seems you are blinded to the fact that she doesn’t love you. Talk to her about what is happening and how you feel. This means that you too need to establish what you want in a relationship. Without this, you are likely to repeat similar mistakes. Let her know your stand and find out what her position is. It is not enough to keep quiet and just keep giving her money without finding out what is happening. This may make you appear desperate and it kills your ability to make constructive decisions. You might be holding onto false hope.
Don’t be excited too fast. Talk to her and if it doesn’t work out, move on. It may hurt but you need to get your life back together.
I fell in love with a guy but I don’t have the courage to tell him how I feel. He treats me like a good friend and he likes me so much. I don’t know what to do because he is ever on my mind distracting me even in class. I feel like telling him but I’m afraid. Please advise.
Cindy
Dear Cindy,
Love sometimes can be a mystery. Sometimes you need to be sure it is love that you feel and not merely romantic excitement.
How long have you known this guy? What is it about him that makes you feel strongly? You need to be sure about this because it gives a good foundation for a relationship.
In most cases, it is looked at as culturally unacceptable for a woman to suggest an affair to a man. However, if you feel he is genuinely in love with you, it is okay to tell him how you feel. Sometimes it may not be easy for the man to declare his intentions when he not sure of the response he will get. It is better you let him know than living in fantasy.
Is she trying to come back?
I lost my girlfriend. After many efforts to get her back, she confessed to me that she did not love me and has never loved me. She got back with her former boyfriend. But recently, she asked for financial assistance from me, which I provided. She now checks on me regularly. Is she trying to come back?
Jimmy
Dear Jimmy,
Everything around you seems to happen too fast before you even realise what you have got yourself into. How long had you been together before she decided to leave?
There should be some issues causing her to stick by you even when she has left. Could it be the money you give? If it is about financial assistance then it is likely that you are being used. You said you love her but it seems you are blinded to the fact that she doesn’t love you. Talk to her about what is happening and how you feel. This means that you too need to establish what you want in a relationship. Without this, you are likely to repeat similar mistakes. Let her know your stand and find out what her position is. It is not enough to keep quiet and just keep giving her money without finding out what is happening. This may make you appear desperate and it kills your ability to make constructive decisions. You might be holding onto false hope.
Don’t be excited too fast. Talk to her and if it doesn’t work out, move on. It may hurt but you need to get your life back together.