Ask Auntie Liz
Dec 15, 2008
Dear Aunt,<br>I have a girlfriend who never says directly that she loves me except when we are in bed, on phone or mail. Why should she fear to say it to me directly? I love her so much and I am even thinking of marrying her. What can I do?
Dear Aunt,
I have a girlfriend who never says directly that she loves me except when we are in bed, on phone or mail. Why should she fear to say it to me directly? I love her so much and I am even thinking of marrying her. What can I do?
You sound so hopeful about this relationship but your girlfriend does not seem to meet your expectations. It is not clear how long the two of you have been together, but when you are in love, it takes some time for one to appreciate and become acquainted with the depth and stability of another’s character.
The more you appreciate each other, the more vulnerable you become. This is when you begin to share your heartfelt emotions more freely. Could it be that she is still getting acquainted with you or she is just shy?
You seem to prefer a more open expression of love which she hasn’t yet shown. Probably she hasn’t reached that point where she can say it out to you openly. You need to understand that this is a process that you grow into not just fall into.
Do you openly tell her that you love her? You need to let her know this as frequently as possible. Sometimes simply saying it may not be enough. There are numerous ways to say “I love youâ€. You could share gifts, little notes and many more. Remember it is about both of you, it cannot be a one-way issue.
When you show affection to a woman, you win her heart. It makes her feel secure and this can be reciprocated without struggle. You need to be patient. Don’t be afraid to go through the process, it reaps bountifully.
I have a girlfriend who never says directly that she loves me except when we are in bed, on phone or mail. Why should she fear to say it to me directly? I love her so much and I am even thinking of marrying her. What can I do?
You sound so hopeful about this relationship but your girlfriend does not seem to meet your expectations. It is not clear how long the two of you have been together, but when you are in love, it takes some time for one to appreciate and become acquainted with the depth and stability of another’s character.
The more you appreciate each other, the more vulnerable you become. This is when you begin to share your heartfelt emotions more freely. Could it be that she is still getting acquainted with you or she is just shy?
You seem to prefer a more open expression of love which she hasn’t yet shown. Probably she hasn’t reached that point where she can say it out to you openly. You need to understand that this is a process that you grow into not just fall into.
Do you openly tell her that you love her? You need to let her know this as frequently as possible. Sometimes simply saying it may not be enough. There are numerous ways to say “I love youâ€. You could share gifts, little notes and many more. Remember it is about both of you, it cannot be a one-way issue.
When you show affection to a woman, you win her heart. It makes her feel secure and this can be reciprocated without struggle. You need to be patient. Don’t be afraid to go through the process, it reaps bountifully.