When the youth minister, Ronald Kibuule, said indecently dressed women attract rapists, many women leaders and men shot up in condemnation and calling for his immediate resignation. But while I don’t condone him, I also don’t brutally condemn him.
In my view, the minister had a very significant point save may be for his “erroneous” approach! I’m sure many people silently hold the same views.
A Jerusalem post ran on May 21, 1996 read: “The foundation of any human civilization is a moral and healthy sexual constitution, everything else is window-dressing”. To talk about a pending evil is not to condone it; may I appeal for your moral consciousness fellow Ugandans that if the blighted moral trends in our youngsters remain unabated!
What worries me is the attempt to rationalize them as not being as bad as presented: theft is lightened to corruption and many grievous errors reduced to lesser evils!
Decency is moral obligation and it means to conform with generally acceptable standards of respectable or moral behaviour. In ethics behaviour is judged as right or wrong basing on three considerations: the act itself; the motive and consequence. While indecent dressing shouldn’t justify rape, we shouldn’t nonetheless underestimate its provocative nature.
In attempting to understand, explore the sources, motives, and explain human behaviour, Psychologists address themselves to the question: “Why do people behave the way they do?” Behaviour arises from the interplay between nature – the genetic factor and nurture – the environment of upbringing.
It may be conscious or unconscious. So, coming to the issue at hand, why do women dress indecently? What are the forces behind it? Interestingly, many people don’t investigate the sources, agenda and consequences of their behaviour!
Does our indigenous culture or religion encourage women indecency or are they so primitive that they ought to be eroded?
Psychologically, men have a crude and impulsive responsiveness to sexual arousal. While women are sexually aroused by words of affirmation and acts of kindness, men are aroused by what they see.
They’re ruled by their eyes and it would have been worse weren’t it for moral and religious precepts for social order!
Women may not be aware of the motives and consequences of their indecent dressing but make no mistake, provocation, in my view, may attract rape and other related assaults. The Baganda say: “Atunda ayolesa” literally meaning that “sufficiently display your sales!” So, what do our women display?
Most men aren’t good at window shopping – if you display goodies, they’ll buy, usually without bargaining and if you resist, some tamed characters may grab them. Don’t give the devil his opportunity!
Our children have become slaves to style but unfortunately the authors’ origins and motives are highly suspect!
Uganda is currently bedeviled by sexual promiscuity, pornography, substance abuse and addiction etc all of which such trends are slowly but surely insulting and eroding our indigenous culture and our morals are greatly endangered.
The agenda of the promoters of such evils are disguised in sugar-coating them in attractive fashions, holiday and school bashes etc. All that glitters may not be gold and it is high time we critically censored the blind spots in each of such seemingly attractive youth foreign culture – leaning sponsored programmes.
My humble call is that instead of demonising minister Kibuule, we collaborate with him, explore the gravity and consequences of the youth devouring evils and together work to avert them. Let us not politicise and rationalise these issues until our daughters fall victim!
Anyone who thinks talking about women indecency insults womanity, be exemplary and educate women not insult civility!