By Alex Balimwikungu
Obviously, wearing a body-hugging ensemble or watching a sexy movie together can put some men in the mood. For others, it could be that sexy matching lingerie.
For me, and don’t even start forming opinions already it has always been the act of undressing a woman in full police or military combat. This has nothing to do with Afande Judith Nabakooba or President Museveni’s ADC Rebecca Namulondo and their gyrations.
I have a new fetish. Nothing turns me (and for that matter millions of men) on, like a woman who picks bills on a date, and later follows it up with an uninhibited bout of sex. Who wouldn’t pay for that? (Forgive the paradox).
Sadly, men are still confused about who should foot the bill. Some men pay for everything, some think that women should split the bill with them, and they remain dumb sufferers, praying against all odds that she picks a hint and contributes but wapi.
Why should men foot the bill for dinner, entertainment and weekend getaways, while women happily bank their dime? In an age of equality, shouldn't the focus of dating be on partnership and sharing, instead of women still expecting to be taken care of financially? Women now are earning as much as or more than their male counterparts.
However, even when you thought equal rights come with a price tag, since it is equality across the board, the equality notion is lost on them when bills are presented. You risk losing romance if you dare bring it up. Their repertoire of excuses as they dodge paying is endless.
They selectively bay for equality when it suits them. “If a man is a gentleman, he will pay for me,” they often coo and you have the brain-washed men rushing to fulfill the selfish interests of these self-serving double standard women. Some have even resorted to pure sexual blackmail. “If you don’t pay for me, you’re cheap.”
For others it is just expected. (Yes, it is expected by women who have set up the rules of dating and sex by forcing men to bend to their rules. And this means, if you don't pay, you don't get laid.
The sadder thing is that mothers now train their sons to buy into this scam at an early age; they treat women like goddesses and pay for female company without question! They start by taking them to schools like Kings College Buddo, Namasagali College (Father Grime’s times), Seroma High school, et al.
You kind of understand it when a man invites his date for an outing and pays the bills. However, this mode of operation has changed. Don’t know whether it is fashionable for chics to turn up with a motley crew of girlfriends, who share one common trait hunger. For such women, I see no harm in cutting my losses and leaving the date early just to save cash.
I once went on a date with a woman who invited me out for pork. I enjoyed the meal and the whole experience...until the waiter brought the bill. The waiter placed the bill between the two of us of course gauging who would reach for the bill. I slid it to her side and said, “ Thank You” for the outing. Her face turned to stone.
I believe no man should allow himself to become a doormat for female whims, and no man should have to pay for a woman earning as much as he is. As men, the best thing we can do is to put our collective feet down and stop paying for women. After all, their behaviour amounts to little more than extortion and sexual blackmail. The reason women can still get away with this behaviour is because we let them. It's time to stand up for ourselves and demand equal rights as men.
There should be absolutely no question about who should pay the bill: we both should because, whether or not you pay the bills, she will still expect you to think for her, think about her and think because of her at the end of it all!
The Kampala Sun