Justine Nantume, a.k.a Big deal is a musician, comedian and a Ssenga. Carol Kasujja talked to her about love
Ssenga, whenever you step on stage, men go wild. What is the secret?
Men expect a lot from me. Most of them do not know how to handle their wives. So, when they see me, they expect me to give them love tips. But most of them like me because I am open.
You seem to be too busy. Do you have time for your husband?
I divorced in the late 90s. I was married to Matthias Kaweesi, a former footballer, for six years. We had two children, but he did not like people visiting us at home, not even his relatives. He even discouraged me from working.
The day he told me to stop working was the day I packed my bags and left with the children. I could not stand such a man. Two years ago, I met someone, but he went abroad. So I am just enjoying my life.
Do you intend to date again?
I do not intend to. Today’s men are thieves. After meeting you the first time, the next time is he asking for money. And on top of that, they do not appreciate you. I am not into men.
If you were to date again, who would be your ideal man?
I no longer consider things like handsome, tall and educated. I would prefer a married man with children, so that he can get whatever I cannot give him from his wife. I hate stress from men. Besides, I cannot handle a relationship, I am too busy.
What do you think of Valentine’s Day?
I do not enjoy it because I do not have that person right now to give flowers. The person who would have made me happy on that day is abroad. So I have to wait till 2018 because that is when he is returning.
For the few hours I have been with you, you have received many calls from women. What herbs do you give them?
I give herbal medicine to women who are dry and those who would like to please their men in bed. I also teach young girls how to handle men. I have realised that most girls think sex is everything. Marriage is more than sex.
As a Ssenga, what advice would you give to a lady who is getting married?
Today’s ladies hardly manage marriage because they do not believe in some of the things we used to do. Any girl who is getting married should have ‘pulled’, she should always be clean, know how to cook and also not use her man as an ATM.