Dear Counsellor,
I am 27 and have been dating a man of the same age. We plan to get married at the end of this year. However, my boyfriend had two children with two women before he met me.
He says he left the women because they were both unfaithful.
The first child is about 10 years old and the second one is one-and-a-half years old. The mother of the younger child keeps phoning me to insult me.
I have talked to my boyfriend several times over that issue and he keeps promising to confront his ex-girlfriend and demand that she stops bothering me.
However, I’m not sure he fulfilled his promise because he never speaks to her in my presence whenever she calls.
Recently his ex-girlfriend called him and since he was not nearby, I took the call thinking there was an emergency concerning the baby. When she heard my voice, she unleashed a tirade of insults on me.
I asked my boyfriend to tell her not to call him whenever she pleases since she is given a monthly allowance to take care of the child. However, he told me that his ex is raising his child and has the right to call him whenever she pleases.
I find my boyfriend’s behaviour disturbing. Should we go on with our plans to get married?
Lynn
