Dear Aunt Liz...
May 21, 2010
<b>Will he marry me?</b><br>I met my boyfriend while at the university. Shortly before we left university, I decided to give birth because he had promised to marry me. But this guy has never brought up the subject again. He only comes to me once in a while. I am not sure if he still loves me. Do yo
Will he marry me?
I met my boyfriend while at the university. Shortly before we left university, I decided to give birth because he had promised to marry me. But this guy has never brought up the subject again. He only comes to me once in a while. I am not sure if he still loves me. Do you think he will keep his promise?
Katy
Dear Katy,
Your decision to have the baby was tied to the marriage. This could probably make you regret having kept the baby. However, be careful not to affect your bond with the baby. It is important that you find out from him his position before you make any other decision. You may be desperate to settle down but it still may not come that easily if you are in such a hurry. You can still tell if this guy loves you by his actions. You can never be out of time to move on. But remember, you are doing this for you and your child.
I cannot cope with his culture
I am a Kenyan lady planning to get married to a Muganda. But there are many things in his culture that I cannot live with. His relatives have said I have to do what the culture says. I feel rejected yet I love this man. What can I do?
Toni
Dear Toni,
Marriage is decision between two people. Anything else that comes up has to be sorted out between the two of you. Culture is a strong issue when it comes to marriage and your response can affect your marriage. Marriage is about adjustment.
You too have a different culture and your partner has to adjust to that as well. Relatives do have their place in the relationship, but that should not be the riding factor.
You may not have to set boundaries at this stage or even change your life, just be yourself
I met my boyfriend while at the university. Shortly before we left university, I decided to give birth because he had promised to marry me. But this guy has never brought up the subject again. He only comes to me once in a while. I am not sure if he still loves me. Do you think he will keep his promise?
Katy
Dear Katy,
Your decision to have the baby was tied to the marriage. This could probably make you regret having kept the baby. However, be careful not to affect your bond with the baby. It is important that you find out from him his position before you make any other decision. You may be desperate to settle down but it still may not come that easily if you are in such a hurry. You can still tell if this guy loves you by his actions. You can never be out of time to move on. But remember, you are doing this for you and your child.
I cannot cope with his culture
I am a Kenyan lady planning to get married to a Muganda. But there are many things in his culture that I cannot live with. His relatives have said I have to do what the culture says. I feel rejected yet I love this man. What can I do?
Toni
Dear Toni,
Marriage is decision between two people. Anything else that comes up has to be sorted out between the two of you. Culture is a strong issue when it comes to marriage and your response can affect your marriage. Marriage is about adjustment.
You too have a different culture and your partner has to adjust to that as well. Relatives do have their place in the relationship, but that should not be the riding factor.
You may not have to set boundaries at this stage or even change your life, just be yourself