She wanted a wedding, not a marriage

Oct 09, 2009

“I was happy about my choice. She was beautiful, Born-again and had accepted to marry me. We tied the knot in 2006 and I then settled down to await God’s blessings.”

“I was happy about my choice. She was beautiful, Born-again and had accepted to marry me. We tied the knot in 2006 and I then settled down to await God’s blessings.”

That was not to be. A few months into their marriage, when the wife was pregnant, rumours sneaked in that she was still seeing her ex.
“My wife had told me about her ex with whom she had a child before she saw the light.

My family and church members disapproved of my choice on those grounds but I loved her and I thought she loved me too. When the HIV tests returned negative, I resolved to look to the future. It mattered more than the past.”

When KKY investigated, he actually found that his wife had three, not one, child with the ex. When he approached her about it, she threw tantrums and became violent, maybe due to the hormonal mix of the pregnancy.

KKY suspects that she connived with the doctor to abort his baby for when the news of the miscarriage came in, he couldn’t have been more shocked!

“I felt betrayed as if a knife of remorse was slicing through my soul,” recounts the Gospel artiste. “I sought pastoral counselling and prayed to God to intervene.”

It was around that time that KKY’s mother died. “My wife took advantage of my bereavement in the village to pack everything I had toiled for, except an empty bed, and leave.”

At first, he took it as a blessing in disguise, an answered prayer. But eventually, he decided to reach out to her in reconciliation. “Her response was shocking! She told me our marriage was over and that I was free to marry another person if I wanted to.

She told me she never wanted marriage in the first place but just a wedding. And now that she was through with her dream, I was free to remarry. But this was never a bargain in what I wanted in marriage!”

It is not a year. “I have earnestly prayed and fasted to God seeking divine deliverance. My musical ministry suffered and I am just beginning to pick the rhythm. I am now waiting on God to avail me a better wife of his own choice.

My message to unmarried people and those hoping to remarry is to wait upon God. Whatever comes from God endures all the challenges, but whatever comes from the devil comes full of sorrow and is short-lived.”
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