Spend time alone as a couple
Sep 12, 2008
Couples need time together alone. Your job, children or extended family should never be an excuse not to spend together alone.
By Angela Nsimbi
Couples need time together alone. Your job, children or extended family should never be an excuse not to spend together alone.
By this, I mean having outings together where you can talk and think.
Make it a ritual to go on dates even though you have been married for years. It is great to be away from the ‘there is no soap’ talk of the maid and the yells of the children.
Like Charles Lwanga continually reminds his wife Maria, “Remember it all started with us so I am not allowing any children to deprive me of my wife!â€
So, there you have it. Whether you like it or not, despite that cute baby face smiling at you, darling husband always comes first.
Robin S. Sharma in his book, The Monk Who sold his Ferrari advises couples to have the discipline to focus their time around their priorities.
The most meaningful things in one’s life should never be sacrificed.
Your spouse is a priority because when everything is great between the two of you the children will automatically be happy.
An African proverb goes: “When the elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers.†Work at ensuring that you the ‘elephants’ do not fight so that the the children, do not suffer. ‘Us’ time is vital because it is quality time that helps build a stronger relationship.
You are both able to talk about many issues that normally one would avoid because one might be overheard by the children or the house help.
These dates also help you iron out conflicts and tensions that have been building over time.
In Staying Close, Dennis Rainey encourages couples to make time for each other in order to remain connected. ‘Us’ time is important.
Every couple deserves it.
Couples need time together alone. Your job, children or extended family should never be an excuse not to spend together alone.
By this, I mean having outings together where you can talk and think.
Make it a ritual to go on dates even though you have been married for years. It is great to be away from the ‘there is no soap’ talk of the maid and the yells of the children.
Like Charles Lwanga continually reminds his wife Maria, “Remember it all started with us so I am not allowing any children to deprive me of my wife!â€
So, there you have it. Whether you like it or not, despite that cute baby face smiling at you, darling husband always comes first.
Robin S. Sharma in his book, The Monk Who sold his Ferrari advises couples to have the discipline to focus their time around their priorities.
The most meaningful things in one’s life should never be sacrificed.
Your spouse is a priority because when everything is great between the two of you the children will automatically be happy.
An African proverb goes: “When the elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers.†Work at ensuring that you the ‘elephants’ do not fight so that the the children, do not suffer. ‘Us’ time is vital because it is quality time that helps build a stronger relationship.
You are both able to talk about many issues that normally one would avoid because one might be overheard by the children or the house help.
These dates also help you iron out conflicts and tensions that have been building over time.
In Staying Close, Dennis Rainey encourages couples to make time for each other in order to remain connected. ‘Us’ time is important.
Every couple deserves it.