PSYCHOLOGIST Gary Neuman suggests that people who are married must realise that they cannot live as free as they used to. Every action must be evaluated on its impact on the marriage. And that includes the new and old friendships.

Sometimes, the solution to suspicion may involve curbing friendships with the opposite sex. He admits that not all such relationships will turn into affairs, but he believes all marriages would be stronger without them.

Shirly Glass suggests that when you detect that a friendship has started to involve attraction that is the time to end it.

Even safer is for couples to avoid close friendships with people of the opposite sex. Glass suggests that couples need to make their spouses their best friend. And to do that, he gives the 10 tips below:

1. Keep it all business in the office.
2. Avoid meetings with members of the opposite sex outside the workplace.

3. Meet in groups.
4. Politely end personal conversations.
5. Avoid conversations about your life outside work.

6. Don’t share your personal feelings.
7. Be unflinchingly honest with yourself.
8. Avoid cordial kisses and hugs, or dancing with members of the opposite sex.
9. Don’t drink around the opposite sex.
10. Show your commitment to your spouse daily.

COMPILED BY ANNE ABAHO