By Lydia Komugisha

Gender-based violence is increasing everyday, despite efforts by the Government and other NGOs to promote equality for both women and men.

I am convinced that the best strategy to use to end violence is a church-based campaign because even some very committed Christians beat their wives. The elites are no better.

Research shows that violence is fuelled mostly by cultural factors, alcohol, drug abuse and poverty. Much as people in relationships are prone to misunderstandings and disagreements, which is a natural thing, the same people must learn to co-exist without fighting each other.

I was stunned to read in the papers how a man having beaten his wife for several years, during one fight, the wife carrying their baby, put it forward in the hope that he might be merciful. The man hit the baby and it died instantly. This couple had six children together. For heavens sake, if this is not madness, tell me what it is. Why on earth should a man marry a woman to beat her? Why should people decide to make others live in hell while still on earth?

The Church should be empowered to campaign against this vice because it has a big platform and a huge audience, and the faithful wholly trust their leaders and God’s message.

Religious leaders should endeavour to condemn the act of violence in the strongest terms. People should be advised to marry friends and partners in building meaningful relationships and families.

Men should be encouraged to let go of their nasty cultural attributes, their egos and learn to respect and treat their wives well.

Girls should also be advised to look out for behaviour that may lead to violence in men and avoid them early enough. For instance, during courtship, a very possessive, insecure man with an inferiority complex, may turn out to be violent when you get married.

Church leaders must spearhead the campaign against violence. I get sick when people splash on weddings without studying their partners. Women are the biggest culprits. One is dying for a wedding in order to please family, relatives and friends and acquire the “Mrs” status without ever figuring out the marriage life she wants.

It is high time the Church supported the cause for mutual, harmonious relationships and families.

The writer works with Adventist AIDS Ministry Uganda Union